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That makes a lot of sense, and I definitely want to be firm and strong in what I need and want from someone so I have been tapping into that and seeing what I need in a relationship. All I can really do right now is to think about all of these important things as well as focusing on myself which hasn’t always been the best especially with my mental health right now, but I am definitely dealing with it and at least trying to improve. So thank you so much for the advice. If I do need any more advice on anything else, I’d love to come back.

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I guess it makes sense, not exactly realising your knees or not all of them at least. I guess I don’t entirely know the specifics, but I can usually tell when I’m with certain people which is probably why I’ve never been in many official relationships before because I knew that certain needs weren’t being met, I suppose. I don’t entirely know right now, and I don’t know what would happen in the future if we were to have a conversation about getting back together, but when we have been together, especially recently. We haven’t had many issues with our needs being met. Is that something I should do? To really think about what needs I have. I don’t necessarily think it’s being in denial. I think it’s more hope than anything which I really don’t want to let go of. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want it to get in the way of me, focusing on myself and trying to live my life, which I am definitely trying to do and it’s been difficult just because of recent events but I’m still trying and I think I am doing fairly well. But I also don’t want to let go of the hope that I do have. I’m just trying not to make it everything if that makes sense. I have recently started speaking to a psychologist, I’ve only had two sessions so far, but I’ve definitely talked about everything that’s been going on and everything that I’ve been feeling because even though I am really trying to focus on myself I’m still trying to control my emotions and they can get out of hand sometimes. I didn’t entirely notice it, but I have been making recordings and writing letters addressed to the fetus mentioned at the very beginning. I’ve only made a few so far and isn’t something I have done since the break up but it’s something I’ve tried putting my feelings into I guess but in a way where I am talking to someone. But when it comes to those kind of letters and recordings it’s always about our relationship. I’m still kind of making things up as I go, but all I know is that I don’t want to give up hope and I’m still sure about us. But like we’ve talked about, I also don’t want it to get in the way of living my life you know

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I have definitely been thinking about it and I don’t necessarily need much in a relationship and honestly all I look for is honesty, loyalty, humour and compassion. Whenever I think about specific requirements, I feel like I need in a relationship. I can’t necessarily think of anything. Does that mean I don’t have any specific requirements? He’s always been the kind of person that I have wanted to be with, and we’ve always been on the same page but there have been very few moments where we haven’t been, and like I have mentioned previously the last two months that he started feeling different was one of those times where we weren’t on the same page and he was struggling to communicate. It has been a week since we broke up and decided to take a break from each other. I feel more in control this time around and i’m not checking up on him. There are moments though when I think about him and miss him. I know it’s natural for that to happen, it really doesn’t feel like we’ve broken up. Like it still feels like we’re in a relationship and happy. I don’t necessarily understand that feeling

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Well I definitely want to pursue us again and I still believe in us. Previously when we broke up, I made it clear I still wanted to be with him and that was when I was when I was asking often how he felt and if anything changed. So it was apparent that I was waiting for him to change his mind. But yes, I don’t want to do that again. I don’t want to let him back in and I definitely want him to earn it. Getting him to earn it, does that count as the whole “win” situation in the books given such as the “become his obsession” book. I wasn’t sure and want to clarify. I’m trying not to expect it to happen since the break up is very fresh but I want to at least have thought it through just in case. Thank for the advice previously though, it really helps

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What do I do about this hope for us? For my ex partner and I. I’ve been thinking about what to do if he comes back and expresses he wants to be a relationship again. I just said yes once he was ready again and I don’t want to do that again. How do I handle that kind of situation so I am prepared. I don’t know if it’s worth asking this now but he can change his mind and get confused a lot and I don’t think I have handled them well in the past.

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Hi,

My partner and I broke up last night finally. I wanted us to clarify how we feel about the situation, and he told me that he still felt that we were really different or at least we had differing opinions and he doesn’t feel that works well, so I decided to share my feelings on the matter, while also respecting his decision. I tried to ask how he felt about having a conversation of being open to a conversation about our relationship in the future, and he didn’t flat out say no. He said that he isn’t sure. Which is okay so I tried to express that I wanted to work on myself and my career and that I am open to a conversation in the future. We also discussed that we both wanted space so we have decided to pull back and having no contact situation for a little while. Overall I think I am okay and I definitely want that space away but I’m also feeling really sad and although I’m not bothering him and abscessing and checking whether he’s awake or playing games or whatever which is what I feel like I used to do. I’m not doing that any more but I’m still feeling really depressed about it all. Like on one hand, I’m trying to be positive about this, but on the other hand I am upset because even though I would like to focus on certain things and although I am being positive I still want a relationship and I feel ready for one. I think it’s a little difficult for me just because I don’t feel as close to my friends right now and I was feeling closest to him because he’s also my best friend and I trust him more than anyone else. I have always found it hard to make friends and whenever I try to make friends I tend to lose them quite quickly which is why I’m not actually close with other people. It makes it hard when you are going through depression and I having certain thoughts that need support. I’m trying to navigate through that because I briefly talk to him about my issues right now, that’s what I was asking him about taking a break, and if he wanted to do that. I was going to suggest if she didn’t want to take a break then he could be here if I need. After he told me, he also wanted space A tried to kind of push that away because he said that he would like space, but he would also want to check in to see if I’m okay and also that’s a nice thing I didn’t really like that so I said no anyway. I don’t really know if that was wise because I would still like to build our connection, especially with the services that have been provided on this site and the tips and skills given. I’m trying my best not to obsess over it and not to have it a big focus but could you give me some insight on how I can put more energy into myself without focusing too much on him and wanting his company and support. Can you also give me some insight on how I go about using those tools from the “make you his obsession” book.

I’m also not too sure about past abandonment, I have pretty much had a lot of my family with me a lot. There was some issues between my parents and they ended up getting divorced later on but I don’t exactly remember anything from my childhood that would show that but I guess I did sort of feel abandoned by friends going out and people that I thought were really close friends all of a sudden didn’t want to be friends with me any more so they kind of left me and found new friends. That started from when I was about six and lost a major friend when I started high school and then I lost my best friend after finishing high school. And these were people who didn’t even tell me that they felt like they were drifting apart or anything. These were people that all of a sudden just stopped talking to me and stopped hanging out with me even if I would message they wouldn’t reply. I mean that hurt, especially the most recent one after high school because we talked about being best friends and we talked about a future as best friend. So it was definitely very hard to go through that. I’m not too sure if that would count as abandonment, but I did feel very reserved after that when making new friends. Again, except for my ex which always felt easy, and it came to being his friend, and then when it came to dating it, just also very easy natural and right, and I’ve always trusted that feeling. When we first started dating, I did kind of feel like we were meant to be, and I didn’t think that we would ever break up actually. Even though we were fighting and we had arguments, especially towards the end of it, I still didn’t ever think that we would break up or end things. So when we did, maybe that kind of triggered other people leaving. During the first time that we broke up, we were still talking to each other often, and he would take a few days to respond to me, sometimes when he wanted space which I completely understood but at that time I didn’t want space and I constantly wanted his attention, and I was trying to get his attention, and I think I was also trying to change his mind over that time. I think after he broke up with me, I was scared to lose him entirely and to lose our friendship. When we got back together, I didn’t have the same feeling as I did when we first started dating, that feeling that I believed it wasn’t gonna end. Instead, I was very fearful that it would end again, but I tried not to let that bother me and I tried to work on being better this time, and I tried to focus on being happy with him because I didn’t want to let that fear affect me. And now that that fear has come true, I am feeling triggered again. I’m really struggling with my mental health, even though I’m trying to be positive about the situation and hold onto hope, and trying to work on myself during this break between us. I’m also still struggling with my mental health which is why I have started talking to the psychologist about not only the feelings and issues that I have with my relationship but also what I have been through in the last two months. So I am definitely trying to be positive but it’s a mix every day and I will feel positive for a bit and then I will feel depressed and upset. Sorry, I’m just feeling a lot right now, and I’m definitely overwhelmed with a lot of emotions and I’m trying to figure out how to move forward and I’m trying to figure out how to strengthen our connection once we get back on speaking terms. I don’t know if it’s normal, but as much as I want him to focus on his work and himself, I low-key want him to suffer a little without me and to miss me. I guess a part of me is angry with him for wanting to leave disconnection. I can be as understanding as I want better. Part of me is also angry and I don’t know how to feel better about that. I am fearful that he will take this break and not miss me or take this break and realise that he doesn’t want me in his life any more. I’m trying not to jump to those conclusions because he always tells me and expresses how much she cares about me regardless of a romantic connection. But I worry because so many people have change their minds about me and many people have left me after telling me that they would always be there and after telling me that they care and love me so much.

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Yes exactly, I do you know that last time we broke up I did put pressure on his decision and him changing his mind. I would randomly pop up and ask if anything had changed, or I would make comments about getting back together, and I didn’t fully understand how I was behaving. But looking back on it now I realise that I was putting way too much pressure on that whole situation. I was being very needy and insecure during the entire time because he did take space away, and there were times when he didn’t want to talk to me, and I would constantly message him. It’s because I always told him that communication is really important and I was okay with him wanting space but I just wanted him to tell me before he did that and that is something that he struggles to do. So when I first came to this forum, I had the intention of trying to fix everything before he decided to break up with me and I understand that it’s not that simple. I was just hoping that it would be when I got here, but I was doing more reading of the products that I got, and it did make me see men a bit differently and I think it helped me understand certain things that I was doing in the relationship and what I was continuing to do so I’ve been trying to change how I think about certain things and to be a bit more understanding on how men are wired differently. I don’t know if this is relevant, or if this has anything to do with the process of our previous break up and then getting back together, but during the break up, I was trying to build up my confidence and I was trying to feel better about myself. It did take a while, but I was also trying to present. Myself is more confident when I spoke to him and when I saw him, in fact, I also decided to wear dresses more because when we first dated, I never wore dresses like ever unless it was like a really really big event. But during the break up, I was trying to be more open with wearing dresses and skirts and trying to be a bit more feminine I guess. And it did make me feel a bit more confident and by the time he wanted to go back together. I did feel a lot more confident in myself, but I did notice that when we got back together I became very insecure again. I didn’t stop wearing dresses and skirts. In fact, they still wanted to dress up like that but I just became very insecure and I really don’t know what happened. I’ve been thinking and I thought maybe it was a big part of fearing I’d lose him again. When we broke up the first time, we still remained best friends, and we were still talking fairly often so almost every day, but not all day like we used to when we dated. So we would both be updating each other on our days or anything that we did whenever we went out how our night was and not too long before we got back together. I was not exactly giving up, but I was sort of losing hope in us getting back together, and I had decided to go out with one of my friends and nothing much happened, but there were a few things that occurred between me and this friend which I had mentioned to my partner or my ex at the time. I do not know if that was a good idea and honestly I do know that he doesn’t need to know what I am doing. I even went out clubbing I think days after that and I was dancing with a particular guy and it was just very close proximity really which I had also told my ex at the time. I really wasn’t trying to get a reaction out of him. I was just being honest when he asked me how my night was and I was trying to express how I was feeling and the fact that I was trying to explore a little but then realised afterwards that I didn’t really like it. After that, he started to talk to me more and he started to become a bit more clingy and that is when he decided that he wanted to actually hang out with me more because doing that entire break up I think he only hung out with me twice, and that was only for a few hours. I was just happy to see him, and I guess we both were a bit confused about each other, and we were hoping that seeing each other and spending time together would help us figure things out which it eventually did, and he told me that he wanted to get back together and I was trying to be sure that that is what he wanted, and during that time I had also been thinking and I accepted. When I think back on it, I don’t entirely like the whole situation, and the fact that hearing me practically moving on and trying to live, my life made him feel like that, and he expressed to me that he didn’t fully understand what he was feeling at all he knew was that the thought of me with other people made him angry. Sorry, just giving a little insight on the situation and what kind of happened during the break up. I definitely don’t want to be like that again, and I do want to work more on myself instead of focusing on our relationship. And I feel like I’m doing so much better than I had done previously and I really hope it sticks. I’m a bit worried that it won’t stick and that I will become paranoid again and start obsessing. It’s difficult because I know that we are both in this mindset where I know that I’m ready and I know what I want where as he knows that he isn’t ready and that he doesn’t know what he really wants and that’s clashing a lot.

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Well, we live a little over 40ks away from each other and with public transport, it does take me around two hours to get there. But it was mostly me that was kind of not able to see him, because he was very sure in the fact that he wanted to meet up with me and he always asked me and whenever we planned I would cancel last minute again, it’s because a lot of stuff came up, but also because I got really nervous and shy and I bailed. But after all that time I told myself that I definitely wanted to see him, and even though I had bailed or cancelled so many times I still had the want to see him and hang out with him, so I told myself to just do it and I did. Usually when I make friends with other people or even when I talk about going on dates with other people they ask me out a lot and I always come up with some excuse and in coming up with excuses I realise that I don’t actually want to see those people and once I figure that out, I usually told them that. Once we started seeing each other in person, it started to feel easier and I felt less nervous and I felt a lot more comfortable in his presence so that’s when we started seeing each other more often. It is a bit different when it comes to our relationship and how exactly things came to be. I do understand that it’s a bit different and we don’t always give that impression. I’ve just been doing a lot of thinking with all of this manifestation thing and it’s just Morceau that I definitely do want to get him back or I want his mind to change but I’ve been thinking a lot especially the last two days. I really want all of this to happen and I do believe that it will happen but yeah I just really don’t want to force it and I’ve been trying to focus on myself the last two days and do things that I want to do. Do you think you can give me some insight as to why he would stop texting me? I kind of just assumed that he either didn’t want to talk to me or he kind of wanted space which I have been trying to give him because in the past I would’ve constantly tried to message him to get a text back or to get a response but this time I told myself that I just wanted to let things happen and just give him the space that he needs.

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Also, I just wanted to maybe talk about how I have been in the relationship. Before we started dating, I was very reserved, and he told me that he wanted to date me from basically the moment that we started talking. I remember the first time we texted. We met on an app where you can make new friends and he opened up with a joke. It was all really funny, but I also did think it was a little weird because even though it was the first time we spoke when I sent selfies to him he all of a sudden said that he wanted to put it as his wallpaper. Definitely very weird and when we look back on it, he also said it was really weird and he apologised for it but I also kind of didn’t really mind in the moment anyway. We had a very nice conversation that night, and then after that night he didn’t text me for like two months and then all of a sudden randomly popped up again. We started talking from then on and he told me that he was going through some things and although he wanted to get to know me he was kind of dealing with stuff and at that time it was obviously easy for me to not really message him back, just because I didn’t know him. But he told me a few months in that he really liked me and that he really wanted to go out and get to know me more and go on dates and he did say that he loved me about three months in which was very soon. I ended up finding out that She didn’t actually love me at the time but he thought he did. Anyway, so fast forward almost 8 months, and by that time we had become best friends we had cold quite often we had been talking pretty much every day and at that point, I still hadn’t actually met him in person yet and I was very wary of that. He would asked to see me many times and most of the time I always had something pop-up and some of the time I felt really really nervous and I got major anxiety so I would cancel. I honestly thought that maybe it was a sign that this wasn’t meant to be, and that I wasn’t supposed to meet him and date him and whatever. But then wanting to kind of give up and just never see him felt instantly wrong, which is something that I’ve never felt before. I have dated so many guys before and the thought of becoming official with them, and the thought of actually being in a relationship with them always felt not exactly wrong, but it just never felt right, and the thought of giving up and letting go and deciding not to pursue anything with them always felt right. But this time felt different, when we went on our first date together we went out to a few bars and we were drinking and he invited me over to his place because it was really really late and I wasn’t able to get home. But we definitely had a really good night and he was instantly very attached to me with handholding and hugging. The next time that I saw him after that we actually booked in Airbnb and kind of spend the night together just staying up and watching shows and again with a lot of talking. We also had a lot of fun at the time. We actually made the relationship official the day after that over text. I had told him that I usually need to go on a few dates before making relationships official, but I didn’t hesitate when he asked me after two dates, because for the first time ever, it felt right. Because of all these really strong duck feelings I have had I really trust what my gut tells me. Now even at this time when we first started dating, I was very reserved when it came to affection and it’s not that I didn’t like doing those things because I definitely did. It’s just the fact that I wasn’t really used to it and I always love my own space so I was always very hesitant when he wanted to give cuddles or hugs or hold my hands, especially in public. I just really wasn’t used to all those things, but he did express that his love language was physical affection, so I did go from rejecting some of his affection to being open and excepting, even though I still hesitated before doing things. It honestly took me a few months to feel more comfortable and he was so patient with me which I always tell him I appreciated. After those few months, I was never really the one that initiated handholding or hugs or cuddles or even kisses, but I became really comfortable and vulnerable with him that I felt like I didn’t need to hesitate anymore, and I wanted to give him that physical affection that he loves. Even now I am more accepting when he wants hugs, or when he wants to hold my hand, I’m not afraid of doing things in public, and I don’t hesitate any more, and I just accept all of it. So I feel like he has helped me grow a lot in that sense. I have noticed that going back to the whole pregnancy thing, I felt fairly hormonal and I definitely felt really clingy and needy and I talk to him about that and I was very clear telling him that I know that I’m not usually clingy or needy but I’m feeling like that right now which is why I’m constantly wanting your attention because even though we had made the conscious decision to terminate, I still felt really really close to him, and I just wanted his company all the time, and I was worried that it was going to push him away, but he kept telling me that he loved it when I was clingy or needy because I’ve never been like that before, and he wanted me to be like that so that’s why I feel a little odd right now with the fact that after I had been clingy and needy all of a sudden he is pulling away. Just for more context why I have been the way I have been and all of that. I’m sorry there is so much to unpack.

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Yeah I definitely understand that, I definitely did tell him that I appreciated his efforts and all that and I even tried to give him compliments on Wednesday on his personality or something that he does that I have admired which is part of that seven day workshop thing. He seemed to have liked it and we were supposed to call that night as well but unfortunately I wasn’t at home. We had actually briefly talked about the break up because he said that he wanted to break up and we both agreed to wait till after Sunday, I guess giving us more time to process things. But he seemed okay overtaxed, and we were having a really nice conversation talking about our lives and then talking about funny things that we usually do. I was the last one to message him, and I had mentioned that I thought he fell asleep just because he messaged about an hour after the last. And he didn’t text me when he woke up for work yesterday, so I thought maybe he would text me after he finishes work just because he does usually do that and even when I haven’t responded or said anything, he will reply to my previous message from the previous night after he finishes work. And yesterday he didn’t, which I guess upset me a little bit because I wanted to talk and I wanted to call, but I also didn’t want to push and text him. I do know that he was playing games and that he was up late so it’s not that he didn’t have time to text me. I guess he just didn’t feel like talking to me again that upset me a little bit. But I’m trying to be more disciplined with myself. Instead of reaching out, I’m kind of just waiting for him to come to me. Because in the past when he hasn’t responded so over a day, I always follow up with a text message asking if he’s okay and it became sort of worse in a relationship, not that he would do it a lot when we got back together, but there were a few times where he didn’t answer me or talk to me all weekend because he was out with his friends and I never had a problem with that but those were times where he didn’t want me to know that he was going out with his friends because those are also times where he told me he didn’t want to go out and do anything. So he didn’t want to tell me about the last minute change because he didn’t want me to be upset. But I have talked to him about it that I just want him to be honest and that I am working on how I react to things and that I do feel that I’m a lot better when it comes to those cause I did get really angry and upset and I did kind of I guess attack him a little bit last year when we first started dating but I’ve definitely gotten rid of those traits. Anyway, the point that I’m trying to make is that the other times where he would constantly ignore me for two days or three days on end I would be messaging him again. I do understand how that can come across as nagging, but in a relationship I just wanted answers, and I didn’t think it was that big of a deal for him to spare a few seconds to explain the situation and just let me know that he would like some space on the weekend so that he can enjoy it with his friends which is something that I would never have a problem with. So this time I am trying to not follow up with another text message. It’s very difficult just because I know that I definitely want to text him but I’m also trying to put my energy into other things whether that be playing games myself or going to work or doing some reading or anything like that and I’m kind of just waiting for him to message me. I do know that he does like his own space and time alone, and again. I have never had a problem with that. It’s just always annoyed me when he just purposely ignores me instead of telling me that he wants space. Do you believe in manifestations and stuff like that? I’m not saying that I believe in it but I have definitely read a lot about it, especially recently about manifesting the kind of person that you want or manifesting your specific person and the fact that you kind of need to I guess let’s go a little bit and it’s not that you’re giving up on wanting those things it’s just that definitely want those things but you are kind of putting it in the back while focusing on yourself. Again I’m not really too sure what to make of manifestations, but I do know that from what I have read and heard my situation from the time that we broke up. The first time has sounded a little like the process that goes into manifesting. I apologise there are just so many things I have come across recently and I’m really trying to do better whether that be in supporting him and showing him that I care a lot. We should be together as well as trying to do better for myself. It’s all a little overwhelming for me right now

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The problem I had was to do with like two different apps that I think were conflicting with each other, and he definitely helped me with one of them, but the other one he couldn’t help me and at the time he was in bed and looking things up on his phone, but I wanted to just talk to him because he had to leave the chat in order to help me, but I was already feeling really down anyway, and I didn’t get to talk to him all day and it was also my birthday so I wanted to talk to him so I brought that up in a conversation and he said that he still wanted to help but he also wanted to talk . It was mostly just me wanting company I didn’t want to talk about our relationship or anything. I just wanted us to have a nice fun conversation, telling each other about our day and calling each other at some point, but he did fall asleep before he could call me. But possibly for the future, what should I do? If he’s unable to help me with the task does it affect the initial reaction of what you’re supposed to get in terms of the hero instinct and that kind of thing.

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Hi. Thank you for responding. I had a feeling that you were probably busy. I’m so sorry for constantly sending answers. I definitely understand what you were saying, and I didn’t mean to make it sound like I was trying to for something because that’s not how I actually see it but I do understand that I did make it sound like that. I do know that not all twin flames make it as a romantic relationship because they do trigger insecurities and they can marry each other and it does take a lot of work and change to be able to make those relationships work. I have definitely been doing a lot of thinking, especially with like the retrograde that are happening right now and I really do want to be more excepting and not focusing so much on our relationship. I do understand that there is nothing wrong with having hope and trying to build that connection further and not letting it become a main focus because I have been thinking today and I do believe that last year after a few months of dating, I became really close with him and I started seeing him a lot more than I did with my friends and my family and would basically try and see him all the time and even when we got back together this year it was a little bit like that. I’m not sure if this is correct, but I am led to believe that isn’t actually the healthiest in a relationship and that you don’t need to switch up your schedule and see your partner all the time when in a relationship and I think it’s because I valued that connection so much and I’m still not entirely used to that kind of connection that I wanted to see him all the time. I definitely feel a little more grounded today where I would love that connection, but if and when it comes back around, I do want to still make time for myself and my family and my career as well as my friends.

Again, I am really hoping that something will change within the next week, but I feel like I do feel a bit more excepting of the break up happening. I have definitely been trying to apply the resources that I have read about on being his obsession and all of that from this site. I have a quick question about that actually. There was a seven day workshop and I wasn’t sure if it would be wise to start applying that now to just further build that kind of connection, or if it is something that I should be doing later on, but yesterday was day two, which had to do with tapping into the hero instinct, and asking him for help. I tried asking for help on a technological issue that I was having because I do know that he is more knowledgeable when it comes to certain devices as Wellers certain services. He was able to fix one part of the problem, but he spent a lot of time doing research and I started to feel bad because I didn’t want him to just use of his time, but he said he really wanted to fix the issue. We ended up leaving it just because I wanted to talk to him and have a conversation. I just wanted to ask what I should do in that situation if he is unable to help me?

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Sorry for the many messages. Any chance for any response?

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Sorry I’m sure you all are busy with getting back to any questions you get. I just wanted to quickly express how I feel about twin flames. I know that it’s something that not everyone believes in and I never truly believed in it either until I started making the connection with myself and my partner right now. I’ve just been seeing a lot of signs and connections to Twin Flame journeys and I believe that we are twin flames. I always trust my gut feelings, and I always trust my emotions, because I have always had a good reading on if someone was right for me, or if any kind of connection was right or wrong, and it’s never steered me in the wrong direction. I just know that I have never been this sure of someone and of a connection before, and I do understand when people try and give me advice or give me advice to completely let go and to move on. And I definitely do not try and disregard that, and I always think about those things. I always try and figure out how I feel, but the thought of giving up and the thought of moving on has always felt wrong with this connection and my gut feeling tells me that it’s wrong, which is why I am very very Passionate about fixing this and about not giving up on this connection. I have actually done research on twin flame journeys and did come across that twin flames can separate many times before coming back together for good. In fact, they also mentioned separations happening at least two times which this would technically be. I’m not trying to feed into any delusions, but when I did research on that, it just really resonated with me on a very deep level, and I know many people can see that as creating delusion, but in fact, it kind of confirmed how I was already feeling, and it gave me a bit of comfort. All I am trying to say is that I still have hope and even if I can’t stop him from breaking up now, I do know that once we have that we will be able to focus on our friendship and I would like any tips, or any advice on how I can strengthen our connection so that it can lead to us growing, and Getting back together later on

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Sorry, also, as for what you asked about him dealing with other issues like this, he doesn’t usually do that and we have made it an important part of our relationship to always be honest about how we feel and to always talk through it but this one particular subject he just didn’t want to go into detail about it and I definitely don’t want to push on because he seemed upset with the situation. I’m not sure if it was because he ended up deciding that he didn’t want to have kids any more, or if it was purely just the fact that he never expected this to happen, and the fact that it was happening was bringing this bad vibe for him. Other than that. We always try to be honest and shower feeling so that we can work through it but I have noticed that about a week or two after getting his job he did feel a little distant

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