[Tamara S]

Hi Heidi,yes this all makes sense.
We have been together for about 15 years. I read some articles on emotionally immature/Peter pan syndrome which overlaps with narcissistic tendencies. Which is what it seems he has. He does seem to have empathy, either after the fact or for other people more than me usually. He is selfish, desperately needs to be the center of attention, self absorbed, defensive, has been stonewalling and gaslighting me, anger is his go to emotion, little to no communication unless it’s superficial, secretive, addictive personality, deflective, alters the truth to fit his needs, blames me or anyone outside himself, controlling more about what I’m allowed to talk about with him than what I do, won’t even listen when anyone else talks, dominates conversations,
He won’t verbally acknowledge his inappropriate and hurtful behavior over the last year, however I have seen him making changes to be more available to me and putting more effort into our relationship. Which is part of why I’m so confused. It’s also gotten really obvious in the last year and I’m not sure why that has happened ??
I SO appreciate your help ! If you have any other insight I’d be more than happy to read it♥️

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