[Judith F]

Now I see more clearly about what you are saying. I have a more understanding. I never had a boyfriend because I was focusing on myself and healing including loving myself to be able to love another. That was my number one priority because I was in a tough spot. I talked to guys, never been intimate with them, was never asked on a date and never asked about who I was the little things like my color, my dislikes, my family. I was only asked about having sex with them and when I denied them they would no longer text me and said that we don’t need to talk. But he asked those about me and asked me out on a date which was my first. I know we should have asked the important things like the trust issues and his recent relationship and other important key topics about each other. But I am 25 and he is 23. I am new to this whole being interested in him that I never felt that way before. I have had crushes and liked guys but my interest never lasts on both ends. But I do plan on asking him about his trust issues and the important things about ourselves. To know more about him and him about me.

[Judith F]

We are friends when never dated we have known each for 4 months and I have only been on 4 dates with him. But our last date was in April. We feel attractive towards each other. The texting each other was hours of texts back and forth. But know it’s no text at all. I see him at work Monday-Friday and that was how I met him. We talk at work when i am able to pass by him. Gas for my trust issues I have healed from that because it stopped me from becoming who I was. He told me that he learned to trust because of me and that he was thankful for it. He cried infront of me because he felt horrible for hurting me when I asked why he was being distant. Told me that was the second woman to make him cry apart from his mom. He told his parents about me and they liked especially since his mother was not a very easy person to like people. I felt that when we had that talk we didn’t say more of how we felt or ask why we felt that way. We were hurting and crying so we never addressed about more of our feelings. He said that he lacks at communicating and as for for me I hold myself back from saying how I feel because I care too much or feel as though I am overwhelming others of my feelings. Should I have another talk with him about this, about his trust issues, his past, what he fears, why he fears connecting with me and the barrier he hold around his heart. I really want to know these things from him because he is someone I can’t take my mind of of, thinking of him daily of how he is doing or feeling, wanting to talk to him about my day. He has patience and understanding of how I was feeling towards him. I was very anxious of not talking to him for 48 hours and still am because he hasn’t texted since Tuesday. His voice, seeing him, seeing a text from him, hearing his laugh at work makes me so happy and smile so big he just made my day. I don’t want to lose hope Heidi I don’t. I want to know further about him the deepest parts, the parts he is afraid to show or be judged for, his flaws, imperfections, insecurities and not just the outer core but a much deeper core.

[Judith F]

So I never asked him about his recent relationship because that is where is trust issues came in. But how do I approach that? How do I have him open up about his last relationship with his ex? As for us being intimate we have only made out never had sex because I told him my boundaries and morals of that. I will wait until I am married to give up my body to the man I love. And he said I was a blessing, unique, a beautiful woman with morals and boundaries, a wife material he said. Haven’t been on a date with him for 2 months. My trust issues were showing my true self giving my time because some boys I have talked to were wanting only one thing from me and I didn’t give them that so they got upset and left. As for his trust issues I never asked him about that and I didn’t because I didn’t want to overstep. As I have said before, this is the first time I have talked to a boy so I don’t know how to approach this stuff and I am new to this. So should I ask him about his recent relationship and trust issues?

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