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I’ve decided that I’m not going to contact him; if he wants to contact me, he will.
I am going to take a break from dating, to focus on myself & get back to a place where I feel secure & satisfied with who I am again. Physical activity is a really helpful way for me to expel excess energy that builds up from anxiety or stress, whether it’s working out, taking a walk, or even cleaning (stress cleaning is SO cathartic, lol!). I also plan on starting to meditate, & have already been writing in a journal to get my thoughts out of my head & hopefully find some clarity & resolution of my own “ish”.I know that there are other wonderful possibilities out there; I have met others in the past & I know that this man won’t be the last. But the clear rational part of my brain ends up playing tug-of-war with the emotional drama part, lol.
I tend to take on the responsibility of relationships, whether the burden should actually be mine or not. I keep thinking about what I could have said or done differently. Rationally, I know that it wouldn’t have made a difference, but the thoughts keep popping into my head.Hi, Coach Spyce-
Thank you for being up-front & candid- I truly do appreciate it!
Everything you’ve said makes perfect sense, & is honestly what I would probably say to someone if they were in my situation & I was a listening observer. It really does stink, & seems so unfair, & initially I felt really angry-jealous toward this woman, which is such a wasteful use of energy. It’s just so frustrating to finally meet someone with real possibilities only to have it end up being one more that didn’t work out, especially because I went to the first date with this man thinking, “This is it- if this one’s a dud I’m done with the online apps & taking a break from dating for a while.” but then leaving the date thinking, “Wow!”.
I know I should have the attitude of, “Ok, I had this experience, it didn’t work out the way I was hoping it would; moving on, what’s next?”, but it’s so hard to stop my brain from ruminating & running circles!Thank you for being here & doing what you do, & thank you to James for setting up this forum for all of us!!
