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However, i still have hope that even if he needs his space that it the end things will work out between us. i also had no context besides that message. i was hoping to hear from him but this was the first message i’ve heard since monday morning. he has been wanting to deploy and has felt angry because he never got the chance but i told him that i am happy that he will be able to have a chance with this now as i know it is something he wants. but not only does he not communicate with me much but he also doesn’t talk to his parents either and i’m not sure why. his mom told me to stay hopeful that we can reconcile when the time is right and she doesn’t really know what’s going on either as the way he has been acting is suddenly out of nowhere because we were together 2 weeks ago. i can take this time to work on myself but i am not ready to give up what we had and throw away 2 years of memories we have made and love we have shared.
i want to send him the message you told me to send but he just reads my messages and doesn’t reply anymore so i’m not sure if i should keep messaging him after he never responds
I was not supporting him financially but i assume that he was struggle with finances because of what he said..? he is military and he doesn’t know how long he will deploy for but he is back to not talking to me again. i do worry about him sometimes and he knows but i’m not sure how to interpret the message. i am still confused where that leaves us but when i asked him if this was the end of if we are still together he simply responded with “ i need some time to just be by myself right now”..
he messaged me and said
I miss and care about you a lot. And I know you can do big things I hope you take the time to focus on yourself and worry less about something constricting you financially wise like I was doing monthly, I didn’t realize how much it was till I simply added it up in my head. You have goals and so do I I simply want to see where this takes the two of us on our own journeys through life. I would like to spare the details to you but to sum it up, I was given the opportunity to deploy in the middle of no where. That’s all I can say and I expect you to do your thing known as worrying. Try not to though I’ll be in good hands. —-With my whole heart. and it is hard for me to break down this message and really understand what is being said. he told me he needs time to himself when asked if we are together or if this is the end for us,I think it is just a lot for me to take in. i know that what you are telling me is right that the way i am feeling is on me and not him. i just can’t wrap my head around how fast things have changed. i know he told me he wants space but it is hard because we went through talking almost every day for two years (aside from when he went to bootcamp). i am struggling to comprehend everything and i know it is completely on me to figure out my own insecurities or why i am feeling this way.. the truth is i don’t know how to cope with this nor do i know how to understand why this has gotten me so upset. but i understand that he can not give me his time right now and needs space to “focus strictly” on himself.. i know this might have nothing to do with us but my reaction is always to make things right and talk things through and that is not what happened so i am stuck with a feeling of hurt and guilt and not know what i could of done to prevent this. i understand everything you are saying .. i don’t know how to not wait or feel better because i am caught on wanting to be with him and wanting to fix things in our relationship because he is who i want to be with.. i apologize that i sound very hardheaded but the truth is i’m just not ready to let go…
yesterday I told him that i understand he needs space but i don’t want to throw away everything we have.. and he responded with “there is no throwing away”
Hello, i understand everything you are saying.. maybe i seem selfish but it hurts because he started to ignore me out of no where which in turn left me feeling confused and wanting closure on the situation. he has not told me if we are together or not but what he has said was ” i miss you alot. you mean alot to me. i just dont feel alot of things anymore. i dont want to move on and i wont. i am just in a weird place in my life where i need to focus strictly on myself. i wont be on any bs i just need some space right now” and left it at that. he hasn’t responded or anything. i understand that people may need space in relationships but i feel sad to know that this could be my fault. the list goes on, maybe he is depressed and really needs space.. i have asked others for advice as well and they don’t really know so their responses are always he is probably cheating and this is his way of breaking up he is just to coward to tell you.. and those responses hurt because i don’t want either to be true. I dont want to let go of my relationship.. i love him..
