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Yes, obviously respect, loving the man and the relationship are important. I more just mean I hear so many different opinions on what is a red flag and what is not.
Well, more in general what makes a relationship work and last. I think it’s coming together. I still would like to know ways to activate his hero instinct through long distance just in case that happens. I live in an area where most men join the military and had a few ask me out who were apart of that. I also am still learning what is healthy in all that. I’m still not entirely sure.
I think right now I need to learn about how relationships and boundaries and what is healthy first before letting into a new one. I don’t think I need healing exactly, I don’t feel hurt or anything after having the conversation. Of course, disappointed. I just think I still have a lot to learn. And I have a lot of my own stuff in life I need to focus on, as well. I do feel pretty good! Thank you for checking in again! I really apperciate all your feedback and your willing to listen and help!
So, I messaged me why he was becoming distance and he told me. He said I was amazing and he thinks I deserve the best but he doesn’t feel like he can be there for me or do his best in the relationship with stuff going on in his life. He apologized for everything and he said if I ever needed anything he would be willing to help but relationship wise it wasn’t a good time. Which after talking to him I felt a lot better. He said it was nothing I did but all his own thing. He was very sweet about it. I told him I would probably need time to move on and he said once I felt ready to talk to him to friend him on facebook. The conversation went really well. I feel so much better after having it.
It does. You know, I heard people try to explain this concept to me and it was confusing but the way you explained it makes a lot of sense. I just didn’t realize this is what they were trying to tell me so thank you so much. I don’t know why I didn’t think I ask them. It seems so obvious hearing it now, not sure why I didn’t know that before haha. But I guess all that matters is I know now. I think regardless of why, just knowing will help and i can more forward whatever that means.
Also, what should I do if he does pull away, with any guy? Does that mean I need to give him space? Does that mean it’s not meant to be? Try to talk to him? It’s all so confusing.
Thank you so much. That does make sense because he has been going through a lot. We have actually thought about meeting up but we both live far from each other. I live in Kansas and he lives in New York. I actually know really deep and personal things about him that he told me. We have a lot in common but also a lot of differences. It was just weird because we connected so well at first and even when he was distant he would apologize and he was still very sweet. I’m at a point where I just need a break from it all because I have been dealing with a lot myself. But I also have a point where I still have a little bit of hope.
And I agree it is a red flag. It just seems to be every guy I am with, even when they are a good man they seem to pull away from me so it makes me think that it’s me.
Update:
I messaged him saying thank you for him for helping me and he completely ignored me. I would still like some feedback or an opinion on the matter but I am going through a lot in my own life and I think going through this with this guy is just too much so I am going to just take a break from him and maybe really study the books with this program to really understand how it works and also focus on myself and the things going on in my life. But, again, any sort of opinion or explanation or feedback would be appreciated. Thank you so much.
