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I just want to heal. I don’t want anyone in my life. These are all temporary and I’m soo soo discouraged in this life that I just want me to forget this part of my life and done
Belittling him I can assure you that never happened.
Thanks your help and support. You had told me to write him a handwritten letter, I’ll do that and let see where that brings me. I’m really tired Heidi and I know I’m stuck.
But I sincerely thank you for listening and helping me in that.Exactly it does take two person to start a relationship to maintain the relationship and to have a mutual break up. I had lots of issues to start a relationship but with him it was so much loving and caring and trust.
If something crop up in your mind wrt him getting me unblocked please let me know. I’ll just send a message thanks for unblocking me and it will end there. I can have this control on myself.I don’t want to be a mother I want to be an equal partner, maybe the way of saying it it sounds like that but I’m just ensuring that things are always right. I love him and will always love him and I shall always want him back. How and when I don’t know because he usually block to move on.
It feels so sad you know Heidi to be in such a situation today and not able to be around the person you love the most.
I can tell you that today I don’t have friends. When I got stubborn to get him back they all went away and once in a while they ask if I’m okay and it’s the end from that.
But I sincerely thank you for all the support and most importantly the patience
I just want to thank you and Christina for your ongoing efforts despite me being the stubborn one. Yeah I’m still finding solutions but I’m thinking of doing something else to just not let this kill me. I feel so tired but yeah since 5 years let say I’ve got that pain and then he came and brought me lot of support and then love. Likewise I gave him lots of support and love❤️
Exactly he doesn’t know what is best for him and he is a Pisces and I’m an Aquarius. Today he may want something tomorrow he may not want that. Maybe maybe he wants to talk to me but he has an ego where he won’t unblock that. But Heidi do you think of a method where he can at least unblock me on WhatsApp or messenger. I won’t talk to him but want to get unblocked at least. Please think about that.Let me know what should I do to just live
Hi Heidi and Christina, the thing that he had blocked me is killing me and giving me so much pain. At least there would have been or no conversation. I’m not ready to give up on him but I’m ready to work on myself not for inviting people in my life but to just be everyone’s support. Yeah Heidi you rightly said I’ve been in lots of pain prior this relationship with him and certain aspects he really helped me to overcome. But he left me and just blocking me like nothing existed hurts a lot.
I won’t do that but what’s your opinion if he had the guidance from his close friends of giving this relationship a chance. His friend is aware that what he did is not right but they won’t say anything since they are his friends
I’m not able to let him go and it’s very difficult. I’m just not able to do sooooo. I’m not strong like you Christina and I’m not able to let go.
Im stuck on that and sooo stuck that things around me are not having much importance.From every little positivity, I’m looking for Hope being hopeful that yeah this relationship can be mended.
I see that the line of communication you said it’s possible but not likely. We can try on the possibility right? So there is faith
About the harsh thing I was speaking about him and he has really gone to the extreme
The fear is that… I don’t want him to go through a bad relationship and since he is someone who is rich I don’t want people to love him because of that. Because in the past, the girls were only loving him for his money. He jumps into relationship very quick which make me more afraid. He don’t realise but people use him and when we were together, I always ensured that people are not speaking to him just for his money.
Yes I work and I only work. As for health, I don’t know and a roof so I live with my parents. I’m still learning today so I can keep my mind busy but I’ve just been failing for the past one year now. I can’t concentrate.
I don’t want another man Heidi, it’s the third person I’ve loved and it is the only person I’ve been in a relationship and that’s enough. During my relationship with him, I knew what life is how to be happy because prior that I was in the same situation but not like I’m in today. At that time, I had lot of support.
What I do in a day: so I wake up at 5am, get dressed go to work from 8 to 6pm, get back home around 7pm, give a stray dog food and have dinner and go to bed around 8:30-9:00 pm. That’s my life.
When I was with him, never going to bed at 9pm since we were always chatting till we go to bed together and he was working hard so am I.
That’s my life today Heidi. I want to be with him.
Of note, during our relationship he had got a marriage proposal from his parents and at that time I had got shocked and he told me he didn’t know what to do. So we had to take like a break and at that time he didn’t block me. We were still speaking like everyday and after around 6 months, we met and he decided that we should give this relationship a chance and we came back together. He hadn’t accepted that relationship and that’s why The communication helped us to be together. That’s why today I’m still thinking how to get into conversation with him and asking for help how to do that.
When he blocked me it was during the morning that I had sent him a message when he was going to work…so it was really a bad timing and he blocked me boom. After a month, I called him from a friend phone had a good conversation and then bought SIM cards called him for Christmas and new year and the new year one he blocked that number saying I’m calling him when he is working. He eventually called our mutual friend to speak to me that I’m disturbing him when he is working. And that was the last phone conversation I have had.
Did a Facebook account to chat but I don’t know what he did that neither I’m blocked on that nor I see the message like with blue tick etc.
Through emails I’ve sent him job posts and he applied for them but also send him like message but he doesn’t reply. He never replied for the emails.
Heidi I completely understand your point and you told me he doesn’t have respect for women but today I still looking for ways to try to mend things because I love him too much.
Decisions can be changed if there is a line of communication between us. I agree few things like meeting each other often didn’t work etc but why being so harsh on me Heidi. I’ve always been there for him- always doing his assignments and was there for him during every stepping steps to suppprt him.When I think of him being with someone else….my heart beats really fast and I feel very weak. I feel scared.
Letting go of Him….I feel I’m losing everything, my world is crashing and crashing and I want to look after him give him all my support and love.
I want to be there for him.I know I’ve to think of his happiness but I want to work very hard to make him realise that we can be happy together. I’m not getting obsessed but I just want us to be happy together and we can surely do that. When I’m blocked how am I going to do that. I want to just start a conversation by saying hi how is work and no pestering at all.
I love him and I’m really scared if I see him in another relationship. I just want to make things right Christine. I want to find a way to communicate but I don’t know anything.
It does make sense. I don’t know what I’ll do if I hear he got someone else. Last time we spoke on phone was in January and then sent him only email. No friends have spoken to him to get back to me for more than 4 months now. I sent him an email ‘ I miss you and wanna speak to you’ on 30th August and another email was sent to him on 30.07.2022 which was as follows’Dear Shad,
Hi, I know it’s been a while! The breakup made me realize a lot of things. First, I wanted to say how grateful I am for everything that you’ve done and shared with me. I also learned the things that I needed to work on and change for the better.
As time went by, I reflected on what went wrong and what could have been done better. More than that, I felt that it would be a waste to let go of the beautiful relationship that we had. I understand that you have moved on already but I hope that we can still save the friendship. If you’re ready and open to that, it would be great! Hope to hear from you soon!
Tav’
Didn’t hear from him though. Other emails were sent which was regarding job offers.
No pestering has been done to him from a long time now except for the email. Heidi can’t it happen he unblock me somewhere.
I just love him Heidi I just want us to speak and re start everything and I just want us to be happy together which I’m sure we will be happy together but surely there’s a work to be done.
Help me Heidi please please 🙏🏽
