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Hi Heidi
Thank you so much. That really does makes sense. I know I really need to learn to be happy with myself, and who I am as a person.
What I am struggling to come to terms with is that before this, I really was happy with myself, who I was as a person, and really kept my life full of joy even without him. I am just really struggling to remind myself of that with the pain I am in right now.
I am going on holiday for 2 weeks, one he was meant to be coming on. I am going with my family. I know the beginning will be really tough and awful but I think it will be good for me.
I’m just in so much pain I still can’t eat or really sleep. I just feel so hopeless.
Hi Heidi
We are both 30. I don’t know if I will be ready to see him.
I am just so so lost. We were the perfect couple, and I can’t believe it has just gone 🙁 I need to get him back…what do you think the best nexts steps are? Even if he contacts me, shall I ignore him until I am ready and stronger?
Hi Heidi,
Wow, thank you for putting to much time and effort into this message, I really appreciate it.
I know I need to come to the understanding it is nothing to do with me, but that is hard.
He said when he is coming in 3 weeks, he will let me know and we can talk face to face. I am struggling with if I would even want to see him or not. The only way I would want to see him, is so we can talk about our relationship and get back on track. I don’t need to be his sole priority, I don’t even need to put pressure on him for marriage or kids or anything, all I want is him.
Do you think I should see him when he comes home or give it some more time? And what do I say to him?
He truly is me soul mate and I can’t lose him.
Hi Spyce
Thank you for your reply. He is going to be home in 3 weeks and wants to talk then. But I just don’t know what I want to say to him – or if I will be strong enough. I want him back as I miss my soulmate, my best friend, and am just in such shock that two weeks ago we were even driving past the church where he wants to get married and pointed it out…to barely 14 days later out of no where, saying its over. And, just days before saying how much he loved and missed me.
I totally agree about not talking with him, I am not going to speak with him. How long do you think I should have a no contact period?
And I agree with you about his mother; it was only two years ago they spend Christmas together and on the 25th December he had to fly home from her country as she was just ignoring him and of course I was there to pick up the pieces.
When he does want to speak, what can I say and how can I make him come to his senses? Do I pretend I am okay? Or…how can I start building up again to get him coming back to me? I don’t know weather it is just better to not see/speak to him for months, but then try the relationship re write method, or, try and start it from now when I see him in three weeks? I also don’t want to wait too long incase he fully cuts me out.
