[Sabaa H]

Hi Spyce,

Thank you for your response. The only thing I can think of is he got overwhelmed with work and the burden of having to pay for his families bills. Everything is on his head at home. At first he use to see me all the time as he said when he was with me he could just relax and not think about all his other problems. He isn’t one to talk about his problems but overtime he got more and more stressed and saw me less and less. He got a promotion to store manager and started doing a course alongside it at work. Then his family situation got worse where they possibly thought of selling the house because he couldn’t keep up with payments. Hence why he started working 2 jobs he doesn’t allow me to help. He feels embarrassed that he can’t even pay me back to begin with. And after 2ish months of blocking and unblocking me to use me when he wanted he finally admitted that he was such a dick because he couldn’t pay me back and he felt embarrassed. I tried reassuring there was nothing embarrassing about it. I have never demanded the money from him, I’ve given him plenty of time to go at his own pace. It just hurts as even when I am nice to him he still behaves horribly to me. I care about him a lot and know he has a lot on his plate to deal with. He was suppose to see me to pay me a small instalment but now he’s stopped responding again. I think this is because he no longer has the money to pay the small instalment. He has ignored every message since yesterday afternoon. I really don’t know what to do anymore, I care about him a lot. I would like to help but there is no getting through to him. His claim was to pay me the money and be done with me but each month there is a new reason why he can’t pay it. Could you suggest something I could do/say? I have noticed that when he is free/relaxed he is far nicer to me also when he wants something but when he is constantly busy he is rude, dismissive and ignores me. I’ve stopped messaging him as he is just not responding now. I really don’t know what I should do. Is there anything I could say that would make him just be normal again. I have noticed how he speaks is very dependent on his mood too.

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