[Megan S]

That makes total sense to me. Kinda eye opening really. I do have him on a pedestal of some sort. And I’m thinking he may have had me up there at first, also. I’m just not sure how I can take him off of it.
How can I help him understand that he really doesn’t know me very well and to basically assume that he did and to judge me so quickly isn’t really fair to me or to him.
Thanks
Megan

[Megan S]

Thank you Coach Spyce for getting back to me.
Everything you said makes perfect sense to me. I actually have noticed that pattern of jumping in and letting feelings of what could be consume me before really getting to know someone. I’m actually working on that now. Which is part of the reason why I’m in this predicament. Normally, I would have given up and jumped right back into dating and talking with other guys. That’s something that I haven’t in this situation. I’ve been focusing on myself and trying to get rid of any negative energy I’ve been holding on to.
With that being said, what I like about him is he has some very strong family values, he’s very close with his immediate family and has been the sole provider for his son since he was 6 months old. He’s put his son’s needs above his own that whole time. That’s something that I’m very drawn to and is very similar to how I am. Honestly is important to him, that’s something that other people I’ve dated haven’t valued. My ex husband wasn’t like that. He’s also pretty easy on the eyes. We have similar sense of humor and the conversation is pretty natural.
I want to be with him because I can be myself around him, he understands most of my quirks and accepts them and I enjoy being around him.
We clicked for many of the same reasons. We get along, there’s a definite attraction between us .
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Again thank you so much
Megan

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