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Also: what is a good response or how do you tell a man that you don’t “need him to provide “ primarily because I’ve been single so I have been surviving up til now. Without making them feel less. Is there a happy medium or a way to phrase it?
Thank you. I truly appreciate this opportunity to speak freely
I’m not afraid of losing him per se… we’ve been friends for 30 yrs so I feel that can be maintained.
My feeling isn’t truly fear, what you mentioned previously is – I don’t need all he feels he needs to provide- I want to help or assist through the new events. I have experience with dementia etc. I guess I feel rejected but also understand because it’s very vulnerable situation for him.
Being in different cities makes the “distance” harder for me because I find it harder to communicate- so I haven’t except a quick text when our friend passed.
So I guess I just want the opportunity to be his partner even tho it’s not rainbows and prove I have his back.Hi
Thanks. I agree. I’m just in my head snout when you send the message to him. It sound ridiculous to type out lol. I feel like I’m 15 and my first boy. Definitely need to address my own insecurities around this. I know it’s not about me, don’t want to be a pressure on him.
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Yes sorry I had some tech issues with logging in and we got it fixed but I didn’t see if it actually posted
Thank you for your kind words – I should rephrase that he is actually my King.
I have reached out this week because there was a death of a mutual friend but closer to him. I simply offered my condolences and said that I understand the impact this would have. He did respond with appreciation and mentioned he was keeping “extra busy” to wrap his head around this and family stuff.
Sidenote: I gave ticket booked to go to where he lives. I did it before we stopped talking. I was hoping to gently open communication prior to this event to see if he would be willing to see each other.
I don’t want to be manipulative I really want to see him. I still sense the felling will be mutual just unsure how to start the convo.Kim
