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Hi Heidi!
Thank you. You are right! I know youv are.. I will do my best and try to cut ties with him.. I have already tried to erase our messenger chat, but I couldn’t.. and I keep coming back to it and torture myself.. I know I have to delete and block.. but it’s sooo hard to let him go.. He keeps viewing my fb stories.. should I keep low profile and not post anything for a while? At least until I am strong enough to block him? Thank you for all your help and advices.. I needed some tough love, someone to open my eyes and guide me trough it. So thank you both! I am gonna be alright.. not right away, but hopefully soon.. Love, Mihaela
Thank you coach Spyce for your insight. I am trully disappointed for puting myself in this situation..because I know better.. And now I look like some stupid, naive teenager, without any capacity of critical thinking..I would have never fell in love if sexual connotation was all he was giving.. due to the fact he’s a player.. But it wasnt like that.. we went deep.. and I fell for it..In my heart I want to believe that he felt something too.. that it wasn’t just me imagining it.. And I can accept that he got scared of his feelings and needs some time to think..I could accept that. But I can’t accept it was all a game.. That he lied and never felt anything.. that I can’t accept.. And not knowing is killing me..I’m not sure if I should contact him.. I probably won’t.. But if he reaches out, would it be such a mistake to try again?? I know I may sound stubborn to you.. but my intuition is telling me not to let this one go..I’m lost..
Hi Heidi!
Thank you so much for respinding. I have been lost this week.. I am really, really hurt.. and sad.. To answer some of your questions.. He has been divorced for 7 years now, they divoreced after 3 years of marriage. He is 46 years old.. He is a player.. I know he is.. I felt it immediately when I met him. But he is so charming and knows his ways with women, that he had me in a second.. To explain my situation a bit.. I am recently divorced, have been with my ex for 22 years, since I was 15.He was my high school sweetheart. And the marriage was bad.. I wasn’t happy most of the time.. I was looking for a way our for about 5-6 years, but couldn’t get myself to leave. I never had any attention from my ex, no dates, no alone time for us, no dinner dates.. nothing.. He would get me a gift for my birthday and our anniversaries and on mother’s day and that was that. Although he loved me deeply. He just wasn’t that emotional. He never ever looked at another women, was very family oriented, but I needed something more. I needed someone to adore me. And then I met this guy.. He gave me all that and that is why I fell for him instantly. And I want that kind of attention in my life, I was soooo happy.. We both initiated messages equally, it wasn’t just me. And it got so real, because he let me into his life.. he sent me videos of his son, he always asked how I was, he seemed very into me.. And now, 3 days have passed and we haven’t heard from each other at all. I sometimes open our messenger chat and read the conversation and I caught him started texting me (i saw the dots, when someone is writing a message), but he never sent it. That happened yesterday and again today.. I wozld like to text him soo much but I am trying to keep my cool.. and I dint know if thatvis the right way to go.. Should I limit him access to me, not write and wait for him to do it.. Or should I just go for it?? I am afraid that if I wait for too long things will cool off and I’ll lose my chance to win him back.. And if I do, I dont want to look clingy or suffocate him if all he needs is space.. I really want him back..I need to be happy like that again.. at all costs. At least I’ll know I tried..What to do? Please help.
Mihaela
