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Hi Heidi, thank you very much for your insight. I actually don’t think I have a lot of baggage, I’m a very optimistic person and really don’t carry any of my pervious relationship issues into this one, neither do I think he does. I think what drove all the craziness in this relationship is our issues with communication, as in we never talked about how we truly felt towards each other until 4 months in. So before then, we were both guessing and trying to get a reaction from each other by doing things that hurt each other.
We both recognize that it was not the right way to go about it. The things is that he said he doesn’t want to work on fixing it anymore because right now all he thinks about are the negative aspects of our relationship and simplest want to brute force himself to move on. I told him these issues require communication and fixing, forcing to move on is not the right method. He recognizes that I’ve been better but he is still so engulfed in all the negativity right now that he can’t look past.
We still stay in contact and he is still responsive to my messages and meeting up. When we met up yesterday we didn’t talk about any relationship issues and everything seems very normal. I’m trying to just have a normal relationship with him right now because I’m scared that going completely no contact means he will find someone quickly and lose his feelings towards me.
Hi Heidi,
Thank you for your response. I absolutely recognize all the wrongs me and him both have committed in this relationship. I have been more open with communication this last month and be honest and truthful with how I act and how I feel towards him. He seems to have tried a little, but at this point, he doesn’t seem to want to fix anything and force himself to move on. I want him back definitely.
How would you go about creating a different relationship with him? I have done much reflection and am much more understanding of where he is coming from. However, right now I don’t want to share what I have learned and understood as I don’t want to bother him with any of the “relationship” talks. I am trying to just talk about random daily things with him, but he seems more reserved and does not initiate. Do you think stopping all communication is the correct move right now? We would still see each other at school and probably run into each other as we have many mutual friends.
