[Suzanne]

Thank you for your response! I am open to the idea of therapy, and have started the process of finding one in- network for my insurance. At this time my husband is not open to the idea of going on his own, or as a couple. We’ve had some very crucial talks the last few days, but I know we have a long way to go.

He has admitted his problem with alcohol, and has promised to never let himself get to that point again (and poured out all the hard liquor). I know that I still need to work through the miscarriage more, but I am finally able to talk about it without crying, and I have come to grips that it likely wasn’t anything that I caused. I’ve read probably 10 books over the last year on healing after miscarriage. This whole situation feels surreal… I thought we had such a strong marriage before that night, and even afterwards we seemed like we were communicating. Is there a specific book from those websites that you recommend that we could work through together?

Based on some other websites I ordered a book called “Not Just Friends”… when he saw it he was pretty offended, but he actually purchased the audio book and has started listening to it. He admitted that his friendship with his college classmate was “probably unhealthy”, so hopefully both of us going through that book will help us discuss things and open the door to other books again (we used to be part of a professional development program that would have monthly book clubs).

Thanks again for your time

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