[Nicole Y]

Shortly after the birth of our first child, I was focused and overwhelmed with the newborn. He was facing some pressures at work. He began to feel that I’m not putting his interests as priority, feeling that I’m putting my own interests above him. He had a co worker who was going through some relationship problems as well and they connected, then had an affair.
But even before the affair, he was a workaholic who only spent maybe half a day or one day with the family at most.

Me and him fell for each other at work too. I was also his co worker back then. So you see, work is the most important thing in his life. And naturally in terms of propinquity, co workers get more of him than family.

We don’t have common interests, but we are working on that right now, exploring some new recreational activities to do together. Issues have been settled. He’s not upset with me, he agreed he viewed me negatively and unfairly back then. He’s very sorry about what he did.

But I’m still upset. It’s not so easy to heal from the trauma of being betrayed. Moreover, most of the time he’s not available and busy with work. I can send him a heartfelt message to appreciate what he did and he can don’t reply. When I asked him, he said he was too busy.

Yes, I recognize his efforts. I know when he can, he’s trying to give me what I need. But it’s still not enough to heal the hurt from the infidelity. I’m very affected by his absence and the way he always prioritize work.

And even though everything is kind of ok now. But I still remember the pain he caused and the fact that he betrayed me.

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