[Alessandra R]

Thanks for all the suggestion, i will start with the netflix one and move on from there.
My childhood wa good actually, my parents ar etogeyher and strong. However, they were always fighting … maybe i think this is normal… for that reason… howver, and yhis is what affects me… i dont want to be like them. They do love each other.. but it was hard growing up like that. Also, indont know if my neediness comes from the place that theu were always working and i was alone – only child- as a kid. Dont get me wrong, they were always with me, and taking care of me but they qwre working.

And about what does it mean that he does not love me and by friends, i meant mine. I always try to seek acceptance by other people, people that i care for in yhis case my boyfriend, my friends. I am
Too aprehensive and expect a lot from
There since i give mu all. I know should noy expext thay buy my mind plays me a trick. If he does not love me, this would
Me that i am alone again. I mean.. i think i will survive and get over him, i know yhay. It is just going ti be painful.. at least, if that happens we know we tried and he have been trying for a while now. He is now in a different state and will be for a month, so i am taking this time to improve myself as a person. I want to stop the fighting, i want to be chill
And stop asking for more love, be demanding and fight in front of others (just because he was not WITH ME) i just want to be chill and stop my insecurities. I think that way i will
Know if he actually kisses me , calls me qnd do stuff because he wants and not because I ask him. Part of me thinks he does it because he wants to, but my insecurities again play me a trick and that is why i demand it again.
Also, he is not at all perfect. He is also very demanding and tend to talk before thinking when in a fighy, saying stufg yhay is hurtful, so this is something that he will need to work on if he wants to stay with me. That and with that just security that we will stay together, but that is for later when we are in a good place, iiif we overcome all these obstacles.

Thank you very much for your help. If you have further suggestions, and if you see something that i don’t please
Please let me know.

Thanks!

[Alessandra R]

I dont think he would be willing to go to therapy, but reading books and talk yes. I am willing to do all the above, im always open to learn and heal. Ive been looking for that all my life, improve and love myself.

Im insecure, i guess afraid to be alone, that he does not love me. In fact, that he ans others (friends) dont love me. I tend to feel that way, not sure why.

What do you think i should do? 🙂

[Alessandra R]

Thanks for the answer. Yes, i have always been needy, and i think this is the main reason i had a lot of guys that woukd date me but not commit to me.
I dont think a healthy relationship ahould be all about me, but about us, share things qns be able to be with other people not just alone (as i asked and want sometimes).
Yes, we have talked and we decided no more drinking for now. But for sure, i need to work on myself first to be able to be at peace, in that way, nk matter if i stay with him
Or other ill be at peace. It easier to say it that do it, but i will try.
I do feel his effort, buy i also feel we are different and he also has his issues. I will work on me, maybe he would wokr on himself when he notices my changes.

What do you suggest?

[Alessandra R]

Hi thanks for the answer.
He does not tell im needy, but i have read about it and yes, all the things thay fhey mention I do. I am going to try to use the book’s advices to see if we can get a middle ground… and go from there.
Yes, i think the maain point is what we want. I want a relationship where the guy is all
About me, i just dont know if this is going to happen because every person has a life, so I am not sure if im
Being realistic. He does try ans calls me eveey day, try to please and do what i want. I just dont know why I feel thay way, idk if its prob the distance, or just me (trying also to work in myself)… and fhe fighying everytime we are drunk.

What do you think?

[Alessandra R]

I just dont wsnt to fight anymore, and be happy together. Like the moments when we are actually happen and share things, goals and food. I would
Like this to be constant. Dont want to cry qns feel thay he does not love me.

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