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Hi Heidi! Thanks for checking in. So after him driving me home and testing out the hero instincts on him, I could say it definitely worked. This week, he has been acting super nervous and distant around me, which I believe is normal because this is all new. I have never seen him this nervous, but I’m staying positive and hoping to give him a little bit of space and I will see him again on Monday. Everything you said in the last discussion was 100% correct.
Yes, that’s exactly what’s been happening. He did open up and tell me how stressful work was. He did lose a bit of money which caused him stress, and I totally get that. I calmly listened to everything he had to say. He keeps saying he can’t afford to take me out right now, but I told him that I appreciate the little things. I made it clear that I wouldn’t mind going for walks, going to the library together, etc. Right now, he’s just been hanging out with his guy friends and going out for drinks with them. I know he isn’t totally broke, because of that. I’m still not reacting negatively and being supportive because that is probably what he needs, it just feels like he doesn’t want to invest in me right now. Maybe he has all these feelings and doesn’t know what to do with them. I’m just afraid that text could push him away – so I’d rather maybe find a way to say something in person? Or continue to ask for his help in small ways?
When I apologized, I said that I was sorry for being distant and he said he completely understands and that he has been busy with work. After that, there was no more texts, we would only interact in person whenever we had a chance. I do realise that I made a mistake when I distanced myself, but I want things to work out smoothly and I’d appreciate any advice you may offer.
He has never texted me since the day I stopped responding to him. I realized I made a mistake and that’s when, after purchasing the book I realized I needed to let my guard down and apologize for being distant. Everything I’ve mentioned, all of our interactions have been in person, I just don’t know how to proceed right now and what to do or say next. I hope this makes sense.
Thank you for your response! Unfortunately, before purchasing this book, when I mentioned I had stopped answering his texts, I also didn’t give him much attention whenever I saw him, which was also in front of his friends. After I reached out and apologized, he was understanding about it but seemed guarded. Everything I’ve mentioned in the post is what’s been happening, it’s just that we are only interacting about twice a week when we see each other on campus. There are no text messages or calls anymore. I was wondering how I should continue to act upon this after everything I’ve mentioned above, since I only get to see him during that time.
