[Miss M]

Thank you so much for your response.

Yes, I definitely feel like he’s sharply applied the breaks. It sort of happened after I saw him on Tinder and when we had an argument which resulted in me ending it, before reconnecting. The way he is in person with me hasn’t changed so I think I’ve just been focusing on that.

But when he said about the van and not including me in his plans, that really upset me.

We’ve not actually spoken about his past relationships. I only know that at some point during lockdown last year he was living with his ex-girlfriend at her place. So it was obviously a committed and serious relationship.

With buying the van, he is going to e part exchange with his car so he wouldn’t be paying all that much.

He still always insists on paying for things, at least mostly. If I drive to him he’ll then drive us somewhere for a walk, visit the beach etc and buy food. So there’s still some level of effort there.

I do think he’s very stressed. He did say that he isn’t where he wants to be at this point in his life. I feel like he’s backed off but at the same time, if he didn’t want to be with me, our argument 6 weeks ago would’ve been more than enough excuse for him to not be with me. But also, it’s like he doesn’t want to give me the wrong impression which may be why he’s backed off. I didn’t mention, but we’re not always intimate, even if he comes to mine. He’ll hug, kiss and hold my hand etc but aren’t always fully intimate.

Yesterday eve I went out for food with friends and his first response was “are you going on a date?”

I don’t feel at all comfortable talking to him about it. I’m seeing him tomorrow and I might have to force myself to have a chat. Even if I just mention what he said about the van and going to the beach, did upset me. What do you think? How should I approach this?

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