Thank you for your response. Everything you say make sense. My struggle is I have fallen for this man who is so emotionally shut off. He has a history of a good relationship with his om, but a very present but emotionally very distant father he felt he could never please. He relocated to my area last year, and does not really have a support system here. I feel like I am hurting both for him and for myself. For now, I am leaving him be but am wondering if and when it will be appropriate to reach out to him again. I am willing to put in the work but will not willing to chase – no matter who he is. I was married for 29 years, he was married to 31 years. We are both marriage minded and hope to find someone to spend out life with. We have so much in common that it feels “right” to me and seemed to feel right to him.