[Pearlyn K]

Hi Hedi,

I feel okies. Hestiant as I felt like I like if I pick up my stuff means I need to let him go.

Yes i mean if there is a chance to reconcile in the future and back together?

Heidi

[Pearlyn K]

Hi Hedi,

I felt ease With myself about let everything rest that in the failed relationship. Be honest, I feel hesitated to pickup the stuff from him as that seems like the end.

I am not sure. As the word friend is a big word after all that we been through together.

Will there be a chance to reconcile in future if we remain as friends?

[Pearlyn K]

Hi Heidi,

Thanks for letting me the big picture. I do not understand why do I still need to re-create a new friendship if I need to accept and let all go?

What are there is a share netflix account created under my name. He is paying for it. Do I have to close the account.

Look forward to hear from you.
Thank you.

[Pearlyn K]

Hi Hedi,

You see the purpose of my message to him is I wanted to let him know that I need some time alone to make myself feel happy again as I feel like I am losing control of myself and puting blames on him for not thinking the same as me. I wanted to let him know what was bothering me. Do I converyed the wrong message to him? Please help me!

After 30days had passed, I felt inner peace within myself. Felt happier as least I dun think about him. I’ve reading some topics about connection code, understand men and some forums about relationship.

Do you think I should initiate a contact to clarify what went wrong.

Can I send these message to him?

Hi Xx, I am back. I’m at peace with myself. I feel refreshed.

Would you like to meet sometime next week for a chat. Let us take a step back to clear any misunderstanding before I pick up my stuff.

I need you to know I don’t need this to work or expect anything between us to last forever.

Afterall, I just want you to be happy.

Thanks Hedi

[Pearlyn K]

Hi Hedi,

For the past 30days, I have been working on my internal peace and healing.

I read through my text messages I’ve sent to him. All along, I didnt realise that I am converying the wrong type of messages to him.

Dear Xx, I hope all is well with you.

Am going away awhile as I require some decluttering works, refocus on myself.

There are some confessions I need to make and be honest with you.

I apologise for being unappreciative and not giving you enough space to meet your needs.

You sure feel irritated when I’m being sensitive and drama queen for times.

Ever since Xxx passed on, I felt gulity of not letting U have ur quality time with friends. I’m really sorry. I believe u could had enjoyed more bonding if I am more flexible.

To be honest, I am actually envy of the special bonding U had with ur friends as you seems to have each others back. Most important, they matters to you. Especially Shirin & Joshua. They had the positive energy which bring out the best in U.

Do you remember saying that U dun understand me?
Things I did not mention, it does not mean that it doesnt matters to me at all. It matters!

I dislike to look stupid in front of you with those teary eyes when I felt extra.

We could have understand each other better if we put in equal efforts as a team and participate in each others life. We are two individuals with different perspective afterall.

Oh ya, I dun think u know actually my parents will like you if you are more approachable. In fact, they think U dun like them. Hahaz

C U!

[Pearlyn K]

Dear Heidi,

Do you think will he come back. If he come back do I still accept hin.

Thank you.

[Pearlyn K]

Dear Heidi,

Thank you for your warmest welcome. I felt the same as you have mentioned that I put in too much effort and I should let go as I am tired of being unreciprocated. I gave in more than what he could offer.

Although, I would feel upset at times but in fact I do not feel as upset as I thought I would be. In fact, my heart is at peace.

Pearlyn

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