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Hello Heidi.
Thank you for responding, I will follow your advice. I will give him a week or so and I will see what happens. Either he responds or not, I will have a better unferstanding of where I stand with him.
To my unique situation, I have used the Hero Instinct twice..he has responded both times..i have also purchased the Obsession Phrases. How often do I need to initiate Hero Instinct and for my situation which Obsession Phrase approach would be appropriate? He and I live 1 and a half hour from each other. Thank you.
Hello Heidi, thank you for responding.
I just feel an incredible connection with him, I feel something for him that I have never before felt with any man..i truly feel that he is the one for me.i am willing to put in the work for him…i am no longer crying over the friend zone when I feel there is a potential of com8ng out of it.
Another add on: I used the “hero” instinct text message yesterday, it took him about 20 mins to respond( he’s a cop so I know he gets pulled in a lot of directions), I had text him “may I ask your advice” on a topic that i know he is the only person that could help me with it. We chatted back and forth for about 2 hours…i made sure I thanked him and let him know that he helped me out so much. I guess what I want to know is what to do now? We live an hour and a half away from eachother so how else can I use the “hero” instinct?
Also to add on: even though there was no kissing, or hand holding, he went out of his way to make little touches…for example, as we were dtiving around, he was pointing out something interesting to me( it was a very cool upside down house), instead of just telling me to look in a certain direction, he extended his arm out yo point it out to me, he touched my chest with his arm…he continued to do little things like this…
To give more information: From the beginning, he said that he wanted to move slowly, because he had been burned by so many women. Our conversation from the very first few messages, he and I discussed personal details about one another (family, job etc). Our conversation just flowed (for every day and some nights for those two weeks before meeting close to a week ago), I never have had a conversation with a man so deeply before. That first evening we spent together, we were around a couple of his friends, playing cards and getting to know each other. His friend, even made the comment, that we look good together as a couple. The whole weekend, Friday afternoon to Sunday night, we spent the whole time together, day and night…..the first date,Friday evening, we gave each other a friendly hug inside of his truck and said goodnight. Saturday, we spent the whole day and night together…before parting for the night, we again hugged eachother, in his truck,but this hug came with both of us touching forheads and him letting me rub his arm….Sunday, same situation, spent all day and until 12:30 that night….before we parted, he and I got out of his truck and fully embraced…it lasted for quite a few seconds, he hugged me very tightly, even told me I was a good hugger, when I asked him about me coming down again, he said that would be fine….he never made an attempt to hold my hand or kiss me, but he also was still stating he wanted to take things slowly….i really feel in my gut that we connected, and when I reread the messages from when he told me that he just didn’t feel a spark, I am not convinced of that..my response to him was (I was trying to handle the situation with maturity of being 35 years old): “I thought we had made one, but, okay, I understand. Now I need to figure out what is wrong with me”. His response was: “there wasn’t any specific dealbreaker, I just simply do not feel what you are feeling….then he said I need to get busy with work talk to you later” If there wasn’t ANYTHING between us, then shouldnt ge have been able to give me specifics as to WHY? my gut feeling is that I believe this is coming out of being guarded still.
To give more information: the whole weekend, Friday afternoon to Sunday night, we spent the whole time together, day and night…..the first date,Friday evening, we gave each other a friendly hug inside of his truck and said goodnight. Saturday, we spent the whole day and night together…before parting for the night, we again hugged eachother, in his truck,but this hug came with both of us touching forheads and him letting me rub his arm….Sunday, same situation, spent all day and until 12:30 that night….before we parted, he and I got out of his truck and fully embraced…it lasted for quite a few seconds, he hugged me very tightly, even told me I was a good hugger, when I asked him about me coming down again, he said that would be fine….he never made an attempt to hold my hand or kiss me, but he also was still stating he wanted to take things slowly….i really feel in my gut that we connected, and when I reread the messages from when he told me that he just didn’t feel a spark, I am not convinced of that..my response to him was (I was trying to handle the situation with maturity of being 35 years old): “I thought we had made one, but, okay, I understand. Now I need to figure out what is wrong with me”. His response was: “there wasn’t any specific dealbreaker, I just simply do not feel what you are feeling….then he said I need to get busy with work talk to you later” If there wasn’t ANYTHING between us, then shouldnt ge have been able to give me specifics as to WHY? my gut feeling is that I believe this is coming out of being guarded still.
