Hi Heidi,
To answer your question about caring for R, it was more something I did for my conscience. I put myself into his place and wondered how I would like to be treated in such a circumstance. R knows about A, and he is willing to accept the fact that maybe I want another relationship.
As for A, I did not make any plans, in terms of expectations I would have wanted to continue meeting, to have fun together and why not, be in a relationship with him, since it felt so good!
I am willing to just be happy for what I lived with A. I have my life and I can move on. Tomorrow I meet him for lunch and honestly, I do not know how to aproach that. 🙂