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He called me last night. He said “Your right, there is something there between us and I am going to start working through things”. I told him I respected him and his position and that maybe I had worked through some of the grief, survivor guilt, a little bit more than he has and that his friendship was most important.
Thank you guys so much for helping me walk through this situation with someone. It’s hard to do this at my age.
He said “. I’m not ready for a serious relationship”. I don’t really know what that means, but it was very hard for him to say, so I left it at that. I know there is a spark, but maybe it’s too soon and it scares him. I just hope I didn’t ruin it by asking.
My husband died in 2014. I have dated a few people, but I’m not like an on line dating kind of person and I really haven’t put myself out there with covid and grief and family keeping me busy. I do miss romance, but friends are good.
So. I broke the ice. It was awkward and we both struggled to talk about how we felt. We didn’t get far, but don’t feel like I reassured him I have the utmost respect for his feelings and his relationship with his wife and would never want to taint that. He is not ready to have a serious relationship. I love being friends with him and really don’t want to mess that up. So the ice is broken and the elephant is addressed, but I don’t feel like I can let
It go till I talk to him a little
More and let him know how much I respect his feelings and value our friendship.Thoughts??????
Thank you for the wise words. I don’t think either of us expected to end up here. He does talk to me about how we went through our spouses things and handled them, the awkwardness of the home where you spent all your time and how to handle that. I will continue to be open and talk about survivor guilt. It has come up.
His wife died 2 years ago. I don’t think he has thought about ever moving on from that. The 4 of us were friends when our spouses were alive and we just reconnected.
We are hanging out together and are close friends. He has introduced me to his friends, invited me to travel
From Florida to Michigan to see him and some other friends, sits and watches tv with me closely, but hasn’t held my hand or kissed me or anything. It’s been like 3 months and I don’t know if I should ask him what’s up or chill with it since he is in Michigan the next few months and I’m in Florida. He’s very attentive when we are together and calls me a couple times a week from Michigan. I know he likes me. It’s just not moving very fast.
