[Chang Y]

Hi coach Spyce,

Thanks and appreciate your insight! Thanks for taking time to read and reply to my really long post of confusion. Really appreciate it a lot.

I have another separate question that I need for advice, what should I do now? Should I treat him as friends and interact with him like normal? Or should I distant myself and reject him whenever he asks me out again?
How can I trigger that spark that he’s looking for? And also how can I make him want a relationship with me?

[Chang Y]

Sorry, here’s some additional background. I met him at work and we have stayed friends for around 2 years now, normally he would initiate most hang out sessions, and then he would ask me lots of questions. But he’s from a different family background from me (whereas he’s less unfortunate, his dad left him since he was young and he had to work rly hard since young); me on the other hand didn’t really have to worry about many things growing up and have very loving parents. Before that he used to tell me to find a wealthy guy, but when I said I didn’t care about wealth, he was really happy. He also cares about me where there was once I told him I was sick and both of us were at work, before he left he actually asked if I was okay and if i still feel sick. He also remembers almost everything that I have mentioned and talked about (sometimes I don’t even remember)
But I knew he’s on dating apps, but when I asked him about it and told him I was sad he said “he’s actively looking for a gf” , but at the same time he told me he’s not ready for a relationship?!

Sorry for the long message and I sincerely hope someone could help me to interpret this confusing situation. Thanks a lot and appreciate it.

[Author]

Posts