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So I tried to open this conversation to which he shushed me. Lol and the way he was acting leads me to believe he doesn’t wanna talk about it maybe because he doesn’t want to admit it, or face it, but everytime were around each other now he always has at least 1 comment about me looking good or not needing makeup or any of the other “nonchalant” things that women love to hear. He did say he noticed that I had changed some, that im much sweeter than before, which I told him(and I believe is true) I’ve always been the same he just never noticed it before…and he said he likes being around me, he’s always thought I was cool, and he wishes he could do even more for me, just the things I need done like w my car etc. And we never really talked specifically about the situation again, but he’s been coming around more and helping me with my car more and he texts me alot more…but a slight worry i had before was a “homegirl” he had that i dont think he’s been with but I dont know what her hold on him is, he hasn’t talked about her in a while but I know they’re still friends, should i just ignore that subject and be confident that he wants more with me? I know I brogue up a whole new subject lol but im starting to get insecure now.
Well, I havent asked him yet, and its not that I never thought of him that way, he’s an attractive guy…..and a great listener. I was just usually in a relationship before, or when I wasn’t, we didn’t spend enough time together for it to matter. Im a work a holic, so worked alot, now I work closer to home so im available more and with his work being so close, he comes over on his breaks some days…..which he did today. And it wasn’t weird. I was right in the middle of bad weather and we were about to need to take shelter so I was a little scared I guess, and was standing beside him 2atching 5he tv when he started rubbing my back, like in a comforting way….and he kissed my shoulders a couple times but I feel like it was that type of sex initiating kiss, so I pulled away to use the restroom, and about that time he realized he needed to go back to work, and left with a “hit me up” like he always does. And I assume he’s slept with someone since he’s been out but I cant be sure…he does have plans sometimes and we can go a day or so without talking….I guess the reason I never saw him like that was because I didn’t think he saw me like that… and he seemed unavailable, and was around me and a guy I was dating a few diff times and didn’t seem to mind…..he may have little comments about how I still missed the guy or how he was a “douchebag” and how I shouldn’t have let him work on my cars etc. But nothing really to go on. I just don’t think he realizes what kind of relationship we could have. Tbh he needs someone like me in his life because I do inspire people to be the best they can be and follow their dreams….he recently took a college placement test so he could get in his welding classes but failed it miserably, so I have been wondering how to help him there as well. Sorry this is seemingly one big run-on sentence or thought, I just don’t know how to ask him. My original thought was just to tell him, im not that girl, I dont casually sleep with my friends and then just stay friends who sleep with each other on occasion, so basically ultimatum him by saying either wr salvage the friendship and dont blur the lines again, or we try this and see where it goes, but I dont want to 1-shove a relationship down his throat or 2-push him away by giving him an ultimatum. So I need a better way to 3xpr3ss that…
