[Heather B]

Thank you for your insight. We eventually did talk after I got rescheduled again. He actually admitted to things I was going to point out. I listened. I was supportive. He told me how he treated me these last few days was not good. He asked me what I thought about it and I told him. I said me getting upset with him no matter how minor the problem triggers him. And that I thought it had something to do with his failed marriage leaving him feeling inadequate and that just isn’t true. He agreed that was probably true but doesn’t know what to do about it. He definitely feels overwhelmed. I was calm and understanding. But I’m not left feeling like things are better. I felt heard which is good. And I got to say what I think I wanted to. But there’s still no plan to see me. We agreed that when we talk things feel better but there hasn’t been a resolution. He asked me what I needed. I told him that I need to feel like a priority. And what that would look like on the days when he is super busy. I told him I need to feel security in knowing that he’s not just gonna run when things get tough. I told him I need to feel like I can express myself without him disengaging. He said he can do most of that but still doesn’t know how to not get distant when we have a disagreement. Work in progress? Or waste of my time?

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