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Hi Heidi,
Yes I’m willing to try. Actually I did ignore his msgs for a few days after he said this. Then he texted again so I responded because I don’t know if I didn’t respond him would make him think I moved on and he should give up completely…
Is it I should completely ignore his msg even he is asking how is my life? When should I wait til to reply his msg if he does?
Thanks for the advice.
Hi Spyce,
Yes I did and we have actually discussed and aimed for long term stay when I came after Feb that I shall find job there to stay with him since last year so I am preparing for that and that’s why needa wait til Chinese New Year as my mum wants me to celebrate with them for this big festival together before I leave them for long.
Actually he has let me know he wants to buy flat since we met in HK and the tax holiday is a golden opportunity in pandemic so he has used a lot of time finding flats during this period however the process has taken so long and the mortgage process was not smooth at all. He felt frustrated on this as well but during Dec, he told me that he didn’t care about whether can buy the flat or not. Or he can purchase in his home town Belgium.
He did involve me in his flat searching, even viewing and discussion with agent together and we discuss about furniture and where to put in the flat, etc. I felt happy and appreciated he has involved me in his planning and the process. Though the purchasing is not smooth, I’ve suggested we can rent a place together before done or we can purchase together after I come. We already discussed we can purchase the next one together. Actually we even discuss we shall relocate to Belgium for our kids in the future as he said the education system is better in Belgium. So I really haven’t thought of he would become this in just two -three weeks time after he said “Happy New Year my bebe, wish to see you soon and we have a happy new year together and also a new job for bebe. I know you do lot of efforts for us, I remember and appreciate so I know you are the right one” on 1 Jan 2021 this year…what a new year…
Hi Spyce,
Thankss much for your reply. I did ask why our goal is approaching to meet just in a month but he said he doesn’t want to wait any longer as he had enough of this situation and that was the goal in the past that his thought can change after all these period….he said he was so stupid to be so serious with a virtual girlfriend and didn’t try to meet other people. He said he should do it earlier before lockdown.
Nevertheless, he said he didn’t want to be with anyone and he wants to be alone at this stage.But seems so much contradictions…
I suspected if this was because he was having affairs with his neighbour as he actually moved to a new shared place and the neighbor was a female so I asked. Another reason I thought so is he complaint from time to time he is alone and need girlfriend stay together maybe Becoz his growth wasn’t with family. He said that neighbor was not his cup of tea. He denied and said if he really had met new girl he could simply tell me and finished.
I said I would come if I know someone is waiting for me. What he said was so heartbreaking, “no one is waiting here”….He asked where I going to stay if I come on late Feb, he said we haven’t discussed and he said he prefer me to stay with my family. “What are you going to do if you resign and if you not coming?” he asked. I asked why someone still care about me if he is not waiting for me. He said he still can ask and he admitted that he care but he didn’t know what to do with me
Actually when he first said this was around mid of Jan then he video called and we talked, I couldn’t believe I even said I allow him to meet other girls…I thought we kind of compromised and he did act back to normal calling me “bebe” for a few days but after few days, he changed to cold again and said “I already told you my feelings and fed up of the situation”….
He didn’t pick up video calls and said he really not like video calls, he said he actually only video call with his parent and grandma once in one or two months. He said “so now you know I have put how much efforts for us”. He actually didn’t tell he doesn’t like video calls and this is requested by him before “we can’t see each other so we have to talk everyday even only for 5 mins”….
But after all, we do still keep texting everyday but not calling sweet names…
Should I still texting him with hopes? Or I should stop texting with him?
Really frustrated and need your professional advice. Thanks in advance!!
Best regards,
Kaka
