[Brenda Y]

Hi Coach Spyce,
Thank you for your wonderful insight to my relationship problem. What I do know about my guy friend is that he lives in a condo, I know that his mother is still living and is 82 years old, not sure who takes care of her and her living situation. He has a sister who is married with one son and another sister who died and his father who also had passed away. Just like me, he is a non-smoker, no drugs or alcohol. I don’t know if he was ever married before or has children? I believe he does attend church on sundays and is into anything that has to do with art. He probably does work some late nights (overtime) I’m sure, because of the pandemic, he has told me the mail and packages are so backed up because of it! So he probably doesn’t even get home until pretty late most nights. I do have a home project that I could use another pair of helping hands, do you think it is a good idea for me to ask him if he would like to help me out with this task and see what he has to say? Also do you think the next time I see him I should ask about his living situation and maybe also bring up that I’m glad he and I are friends or ask him if we are more than just friends? See how he might respond? Or not say anything?And see if things progress and move forward with him and I? Would it be okay for me to ask him for his cell phone # and email address and in turn give him mine? At this point, I am not sure how to go about things with him after his answer to my question was “I don’t hang out”. He never said to me, I am not interested in you that way, I have a girlfriend, I just want to be friends with you, etc. A couple of things come to my mind: maybe I should just give up trying with him because maybe he is just not that interested in me anymore; or start dating other men; or just reside to the fact that maybe he only wants to be friends with me.

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