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I’m trying to stay busy but it seems all I do brings back the good time memories we’ve made together like hiking, etc. I’m doing some deep cleaning of closets and reaching out to girl friends. I will heal. I am normally strong. Being so caught off guard with all the on going texts and great emojis up until the night before he told me the “news” makes it tough. I will survive! This has been harder than when my husband of 36 years died. It’s a different kind of grieving this time that includes rejection. Thank you for your encouragement.
My plan is to be strong and let him make the next move as to when we may connect to return belongings. He is a very nice guy and will do so in his time. I feel he is hurting too. I continue to pray for peace and contentment for both of us. I also hope it is with each other.
God had plans for us.Three days ago I texted…
Hello, I was just making me some tea and see it’s the time you usually watch some ————- on tv. I hope you have a nice end to your weekend and a restful sleep tonight.
His response… Thank you and wishing you a good night sleep.See he is a nice guy and won’t be mean about it but pleasant.
He didn’t leave an opening or respond about what I was doing.
He said he will bring my belongings back but he’s probably afraid I will beg him again to stay with me. I know that’s my error but couldn’t help it when he broke it off. What I did was try to reason with him. Not, please, please don’t leave.
I think it may take time before he comes over.I haven’t got that far as his text response to my first “thinking of you” text was very short…”thank you”. He isn’t interested in continuing on.
Kenya, those are very doable ideas. Thank you so much. He is a very good cook! Wish me luck with prayers.
It’s only been 9 days since he said goodbye over the phone. He’s a very kind man and is not nasty. He knows how to do many things, cook, repairs, strong, intelligent. We do have to connect so I can get some things I left at his home. I want to be strong that day so we can visit and part in a pleasant way. I’m still crying daily now. Texts 7 days ago were me initiating and his short replies. I’d text good night and good morning. He did say he wouldn’t rather be alone than with me so I’m hopeful but he also said he doesn’t know if he wants to heal from past hurts. He thinks there is someone more compatible for him. I responded that relationships take a lot of work and compromising. I am widowed after 36 years with my husband. My guy has been married in the past for 8 years and many other relationships. I wonder if things get bumpy and he walk away. I’d like to ask for help with something so he will feel good about that as I learned in the Relationship Rewrite Method.
In the Relationship Rewrite Method it talks about ways to get your guy back. One is to ask him for a favor that can be done live and in person. It should take place somewhere that we have not met before. It shouldn’t be something urgent and it should allow me to give a thank you gesture later, such as a plate of cookies. It’s been said that we like others more after we do them a favor.
After 11 months of what I thought was a wonderful relationship my significant other thinks there may be someone who is more compatible with him. I know there is no one else in his life now. He is hurting and says he is not ready to heal from a situation between us that was 5 months ago as I tended to bring it up too often. I’ve shown I am not bringing it up for two months now. I have forgiven him. I’ve apologized. So know I’m working thru the Rewrite Method. What kind of favor is James Bauer referring to? Examples please?
