[Upasna K]

Hey,

So I hav been thinking and reading alot about relationships and what Men say they want & still they pull away like this when you give them which they only asked.

And I feel like in this case , i gave more in this thing comapred to hi, maybe that was a turnoff for him ? If I want to revive this thing what should I do ? Coz I genuinely Liked him and think we are a great and compatible match.

[Upasna K]

Hey Heidi,

So he messaged me back that he apologize for not being in touch and have been meaning to connect with me. And then we spoke the next day where he told me the earlier work load had been done n dusted. But now there are some new changes at work and he may to shift to a new city due to that. And then he told me that he has a lot on his plate again and dont think that he can focus on a relationship or dating at this time/year.

At the same I have been seeing him checking the same matrimony site litreally on daily basis where we met. ( I know should not be checking his status there, but could help in last month).

Thoughts ?

[Upasna K]

Hey Heidi,

Thanks so much for such an elaboration. Helped a lot. And You are right, I am too the kind of person who require communication, or else what a realtionship is without that ?

Will drop him a message to check on him. And will let you know how it goes.
Thanks Much 🙂

Upasna

[Upasna K]

HI Heidi,

Thanks for ypur revert.

This simple message will definitely help in starting the conversation. But my real question is should I even be putting in effort to start this again. And if I do Will I be coming across as desperate ?

I completely understand when you say a person is when he/she behaves in their worst/bad moments and thats what has been keeping me from messaging him in last few weeks, but at the same time i cant stop thinking about him and especially what happended randomly that he pulled away like this coz earlier he was actually sharing each and every thing with me when he was going through at personal front/family front.

Thats what made me confused about which kind of person he is.

[Upasna K]

Hi,

So I have been talking to a person from last 5 months now. We have met via an online site for arranged marriage though we are from same country but currwntly living in different countires. We spoke first for 2 months and then he came to visit his family thats when met in person. We instantly hit it off and met a few times for dinners and coffee dates (though he was going through a lot faily wise at that time). And thats one of the major reason as well that I like him coz he dis pit in efdorts to meet while he was here given his family stuff. He had told me that he is seriously looking for long term realtionship only. And we have the same thought process. Then next month he went back and we tried to stay in touch via text and calls. And then suddenly daily conversations shifted to every 2-3 day chats only. Then I asked him that we need to talk coz its been a while and he told me that we should talk over weekend coz has been thinking abut it a lot and somw how coz of busy work schedule couldnot connect. And now it has been the same from last 2 weekends. How should I make conversation going without coming off too deseprate.

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