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I agree thanks. Heis 68… I am sure he has been doing this for years- phone sex massage parlors. He is selfish and does not anyone to tell him what to do. He will continue to hide it and be unhappy. I already told him he has a borderline sex addiction but he sees nothing wrong with what he’s doing. He says he does not love me and he thinks if he did he would not want other girls. So he is totally in denial. I doubt he will ever want to change. We are apart for 5 months. I told him I am going to date others. We will be back in the same state in May. We will see what happens.. he is now discovering that is hard to find a new girlfriend. He is getting pissy on line because there are fakes and he is not getting what he wants. So I can only hope he realizes that online dating and looking for sex is a waste of time. I will not go back to the same relationship. If he says he is done with online sites I do not know if I can trust him. he would of never told if i would not of caught him.. oh well time will tell
Hi Kanya.
No its not a healthy relationship that’s why I’m taking a break. For 8 years I have been his GF. He does not date others, I am with him 3-4 days a week. He treats me like a wife. started out with passion but not anymore. He is cold- wants sexual attention for himself not me. Will cuddle or let me massage his feet and lay on couch together. They only way I know he has been online is because I found emails one day an internet history. I continue to spy on him. otherwise I would not of known. He acts normal, wonders when I am coming to his house, make plans together etc. He goes on line to chat with girls, look at pics and lately try to set up dates for dinner or what ever. So he’s looking for sex partners. If I didn’t see his computer, he would never tell me, lie if he went to meet someone. He wants me around when its good for him with the ablity to seek around if given the opportunity. Hes lonely, wants sex with someone else and is too lazy and selfish to work on our relationship. Hes 68.. doesn’t go out to bars, doesn’t know alot of girls so now that he has found the internet he’s all into it. It like exciting something new. He doesn’t want me to tell him what to do and if he wants to talk to chicks online he will. Its not about me its about him. Sex to him is not emotional- when it gets emotional he pulls away. at least that’s how I see it. He says on line.. that he wants a relationship but he had a relationship and pissed it away. I know” why stay with him, you deserve better, he doesn’t love you, move on” not that easy. He is my security. He is there if I need him. he always pick up the phone, acts concerned and remembers everything I say. I do not use or take money from him so that is not it. He is very predictable and I am not. he keeps me grounded. So if he really doesnt want to be with me- why call me, answer my calls. he wants it all. I have now set boundaries. But I do not understand how he can continue to look up chicks online- go to massage parlors when he has a steady lay anytime he wants it.. but he doesn’t want me sexually.. I have tried it all. and he literally says no I dont want sex. its been a year. and he will let me rub on him and he gets pleasure but not me. He gives all of sexual energy to fake people on line.He finds it exciting and yes he can get it up..l doesn’t need pills. he doesn’t even kiss me anymore. i have to lean over and kiss him. so he shows he cares but will not work on moving forward. he thins I will just be around. So yes I am trying tobreak away. but I think our relationship is good and important enough to work on but not if he is going to stay on line looking for sex.
