[Flora D]

Thank you so much Kanya for replying so quickly. I know very little detail. He says it was a spontaneous one night event about 10 months ago when he was working away – he works away quite often. He says he has not maintained contact and doesn’t even know how to get in touch with this person. Who would know though??. Whatever he tells me I am not going to believe at the moment.
I have fabulous support from friends and family but am living on my own now (also very new situation for me) so I have lots of empty space and time. I am trying very hard to make sure I set myself tasks and make plans so I can keep moving.
I am a person who likes to confront a problem and get answers (even if they may not be the answers I want to hear). My head knows I just need to sit with this a while. Should I contact him? When I have contacted him my rage is just reignited and he just gets mad and defensive. I feel like he needs to take responsibility for trying to explain this and to be honest with me about what he does or doesn’t want. I told him I wanted him out of my life, so wondering if he thinks that the best thing to do is to just walk away? That makes me angry and vengeful.

Thank you for any thoughts or suggestions.

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