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Thank you so much for the response. The last week has been so hard; everything is so confusing. The man that I thought I knew would never just ghost me. So I’m left feeling like I never really knew him and our relationship was a lie.
I still have not reached out, and at this point I doubt he will. I’m pretty sure that there isn’t someone else in the picture (one of my close friends works with him and she 100% agrees as well). If I had to guess what is happening, is that when we are together, everything feels perfect. We have incredible sex, have fun doing things together, have great conversations; the weekend before Thanksgiving felt magical and I know he felt it too. But maybe when he spent some time apart from me for Thanksgiving, he questioned if we would really end up together. Maybe he wants to stick with that, but he knew if he saw me in person he would want to be with me again.
I don’t know, it’s only speculation. I just can’t understand how he went from sending sweet texts, planning a date for when he got back; to cold and distant in only 4 days.
This is hard for me to accept. I really love him and think our relationship could be so great, but his silence revealed something about his character that I have never seen. It doesn’t feel real, because I have no explanation to what happened. In my mind, the man that I know and love, and this man who doesn’t cares about me so little, are not the same person. I feel like I’ve not only lost my love, but I lost my friend. I always thought so highly of him, so it feels like I’m not just grieving the loss of a relationship, but grieving his apparent loss of character.
I have two questions for you. First, is there anything I could do to save this relationship? To make him choose to pursue me?
If not, should I ever say anything to him? I read the Insight about ghosting, and thought I may try: “Are we over? I’d like to get some closure so I can date someone new.” It’s a fair question, because when he said he wanted us to date again, we agreed we wouldn’t be dating other people. But does texting him anything give him back the power and makes me look pathetic?
