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Thank you. the relationship ended about a month ago now. Space communication was cut off but then he reached out to me wanting to speak and connect. We agreed on a day and time to meet. then he pulled back from it saying he’s not ready. he suffers from ADHD OCD and anxiety disorder, but it was manageable and he was self aware and work through it really well for about three months. then his fears took over about being in a relationship, possibilities of failure, never being told I love you from his parents, self fulfilling prophesies, and other things aparently he has this history with several other women before me and is aware of it but has a hard time breaking through his fear anxieties and other things that hold him back from having a successful relationship. I’m a counselor and understand a lot of things about what he suffers from so it made it easy for me to be patient with him and desire to work it all through with him because I loved him and believed in our relationship. He has great qualities and see that he can be strong in a relationship. but I told him that he certainly would need to work on these things on his own but that I would be there to support him. Space but his fears one and he broke up with me. Space when he first broke up with me I was able to convince him to give it another try. Space then two days later he broke up with me again. Space and that’s what leads us to a month later where he reached out to me couple of days ago wanting to connect and then got scared again. Space we don’t have any connection now. Space in previous conversations I did admit to him where I thought I was failing at our relationship or had shortcomings in it. Space I have read James’s book so far on regarding a relationship. Space but I don’t know where to begin. Space reaching out to him too soon right now is not a good idea. Space so in the meantime I’m learning about relationships and men and everything that is taught in this program and other programs as well. Space I do believe that he genuinely does love me and wants to make it work in his heart however his fears and anxieties trump it all. He has triggers. I just don’t know where to begin, in the study it says to reach out however other studies say not to reach out so I’m confused can you offer some guidance. The only connection we have right now is Facebook. We have not blocked each other. But no open communication.
