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He did tell me whrn he was here that wednesday (as per my previous message) that he wants time on his own. Should i be aware? Should i give him time like i have been doing?
I want to reconnect withhim again but i dont know how to reach out without looking desperate or showimg him my fear of being rejected. I dont want to play games or play with his emotions. How do i reach out and start over again without him rejecting me and getting the past out of his mind?
I decided to not send that message to him. But he did send me a message on friday night and asked how im doing. I didnt respond. Then satursay he send me a message asking if im not going to talk to him, again i didnt respond. He then stopped at my workplace and asked how im doing, i said good and he said no im not doing good because im not talking to him. So i just smiled and said what must i say. So i walked away. He then send me a message late on saturday asking if im not allowed to talk to him, i only responded on sunday saying i have just been busy thats all. He then asked again how im doing and what have i been busy with. I didnt respond. He then send me a message wednesday morning saying that he needs to know if im okay and lookimg after myself. Again i didnt respond. He then phoned me on wednesday and i didnt answer. He then came to my work again and said that he needs to know im okay and that i was a big part of his life for a long time and that he will always be there for me if i need anything and that he was tired of getting hurt (all the fighting). He then said that no matter what stories i hear he never messed me around (i never heard any stories). He then said that he would have eventually given me everything i wanted like a house and family etc. He then wanted to know why im not talking to him and my words were: you really want the truth? He said yes. So i said: you know that i care about you? He said yes very much. So i said: you are the one who said you wanted a time out and space away from me and wanted alone time and i respect that and thats what im giving you. He then asked for my fathers number (apparently about work) but he never phoned my father (i think he was just making up a story and didnt really want my fathers number). Im asking you to please tell me what this behaviour mean? What does he want? I am completely lost but i feel like he might be playing with my mind and emotions to try and keep me in his life on his terms.
Thank you for the article and response. Problem is we do not talk at the moment. I have no idea how to reach out to him and start triggering the hero instincts. I have no idea how to start and i doubt strongly he will sit down and talk. He is more the past stays in the past type of guy. I miss him very much and i am just completely lost.
