[Amanda B]

I was dating my boyfriend for 10 months. We were in a long distance relationship (only about 1.5hrs away from each other). I knew from the beginning he wasn’t an emotional guy but he knew from the beginning I was emotional. Our schedules are completely opposites and my weekend falls on the normal work week when he works. So we decided it would be more convenient for me to come up to see him. Before Covid started we did go out on dates but since Covid that slowed down and we usually just hung out at his house (which I’m totally okay with). We had a lot of fun times together, we both met each other’s immediate family members as well. Anyways, on 10/2/20 we got into an argument and he told me that girls in his past cheated on him and he began to grow skeptical of our relationship. We didn’t talk for the rest of the day. Saturday morning he reached out to me and said he trusted me but wouldn’t be able to forget his past. The rest of Saturday and Sunday we hardly talked – which was strange due to us texting all day everyday for 10 months. On Monday we agreed to talk via FaceTime. He ended up telling me that he loves me, cares for me and wants to still date me but has had this “feeling” for a while. He said the feeling came about during our last argument. Most of our arguments were over misunderstood text messages and were always resolved. He said he couldn’t describe this feeling but had felt it in the past with other relationships and those ended up falling apart. The FaceTime ended abruptly. On Thursday, I reached out to him. He was receptive. I asked if it meant it was over between us and he said he thinks it’s for the best. He told me that the weekend we hardly talked he enjoyed only having to worry about himself and not much else. We ended the conversation with saying we both don’t want us to be strangers and he said if I need to or want to reach out, to do so. I can’t help but keep thinking of him. He knows I plan on moving up to his area (I had intended to do before meeting him, it just happened to work out that he lived there too) and I feel this distance he couldn’t handle and was getting lazy. I love him and I do see a future with him. I want him in my life but I don’t know if there is any hope left or how to really handle this situation. All I can add is since the break up I’ve noticed he is looking at all my social media posts. He grandmother also added me then immediately deleted the request on Facebook. I just don’t know what to do.

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