[Miss D]

Hi Heidi,

Ok so I should have a couple of days if not a week or so left 😊 I am a REALLY sensitive person! I cry over everything and I would say I do feel emotions pretty intensely.

I would love some advice navigating dating apps. In regards to the other guy would you say it’s better to be friends or not be friends with him?

Thanks 😊

[Miss D]

Hi Heidi,

If my membership has been cancelled does that mean it’ll just not renew after the free trial and I can still use the time I have left?

I would love to explore it further as I would love to find someone who is on my level and doesn’t give up when it’s hard. You mentioned about digging deeper inside me, how can I do this? 😊 I do love easily and my love is strong, it’s just something I cannot help but I’ve decided to see that as a strength not a weakness and as you say someone will be lucky to have it!! I am going back on dating apps but I really don’t want the same thing to happen to me again so any advice would be very much appreciated 😊

Thank you

[Miss D]

Hi Heidi,

Firstly thank you so much for your apology, I really appreciate it and unfortunately I was a bit hasty in asking for a refund so I won’t be on here much longer when they stop my account.

I actually now believe I did misread your comments and I am sorry for that, I do wish I could have the chance to explore it all further with you but as I say it is too late now.

I’m sorry I couldn’t take this further 😔

Best wishes x

[Miss D]

Hi, I am actually really quite offended and upset with your reply. Firstly you haven’t given me any advice on how to change my mindset so I don’t have hope with him and can be JUST FRIENDS 😔 It also seems like you’re on HIS side and think clearly I’m not worth his time and he deserves better. I don’t want to have hope with him and wait around however it’s hard as he has left it how he has.
Secondly how dare you say I haven’t been dealt bad cards and implied I am the reason bad things have happened to me! I didn’t choose to be cheated on, I didn’t choose to fall pregnant and then be manipulated into giving my baby up, I didn’t choose to have a miscarriage and have to deal with that by myself as he had moved on with another girl. That’s what happened in my past relationship and I don’t think I deserved that because of my ‘energy’. I actually grew up with a lot of love and support but I am also a hopeless romantic so yes I do fall easily and get hurt big time but how dare you imply I deserve that because of the way I am.
I hoped joining this membership and forum that I would receive some advice that I could take however I just feel completely victimised by you and really hurt and upset.
I am really disappointed in this service to be honest.

[Miss D]

Hi Heidi,

I completely understand and get that men are different, I guess that’s why it’s hard to see it from their point of view. I am also worried that if I’m friends with him and he starts dating someone new I will just feel like I have been lied to. He has told me he is still going on dating apps to talk to people but he has no intention of dating anyone or anything more serious yet. I am not sure desperate is the right word but I am ready to find someone special, I feel like I have been dealt unlucky cards in life and everytime this happens it crushes my spirits that little bit more and it really is heartbreaking.

For now I will listen to your advice and just be friends with him and then hopefully when he is ready for a relationship there might still be something there.

Would you suggest I start dating again to get myself out there? He has said he doesn’t want me waiting for him as he doesn’t know when he will be ready so I don’t want to just wait but I also don’t want him thinking I’ve moved on and not interested in pursuing things with him?

Thank you

[Miss D]

Hi Heidi,

I completely understand, I just really did feel like we had something and it upsets me just being his friend and nothing more. I don’t get how if he likes me he wouldn’t just want to date again.

Last year a lot happened with someone I was seeing, he cheated on me, manipulated me and ended up having a mental breakdown and having to leave my job because of him. It was a really tough time so I do really struggle trusting guys now, but I am desperate to just find love and be happy with someone. I did have therapy last year because of all of this and she really helped but I just seem to find that wrong men 😔

I guess I was hoping there would be some sort of magic phrase or something you’d suggest to get him back because waiting for him to change his mind is really hard! My friends have told me to just think in my head it’s over and he doesn’t want me right now but it’s difficult with what he said about bad timing, it’s hard to think maybe he lied about that.

I don’t know whether to get back on the dating apps and talking to people but also don’t want him to think I’ve moved on and am not interested, as then when he is ready he might think I’m not anymore.

I am just really not sure what to do to be honest 😔

[Miss D]

*fall
It is just hard as I seem to not be able to trust anyone because of my past and what has happened to me yet I still fall so easily and get hurt so easily?

[Miss D]

Hi Heidi,

Thank you for your reply. We did just kind of click from the first date and then we saw each other a lot in the space of the month and talked about the future and stuff. We did have sex on about the 7th date so it wasn’t as if I had sex straight away with him. I do actually for once accept that this was the truth for him as he was very honest about everything and I don’t know why he wouldn’t have just told me the truth if that wasn’t it, also he wants to stay friends and has said when he decides he wants something maybe I’ll still be interested and we can try again. We met on a dating app which seems that I have absolutely no luck with.

I completely understand where you are coming from however I really do feel like we had something. I am looking for someone who wants a future with me etc but it’s also hard as I did really like him and can’t seem to stop thinking about him. What would you suggest now? Are there any phrases to see if I can work out how he is feeling and if there is anything there? I’d like to give it another go because I’ll always be thinking what if otherwise…

It is just hard as I seem to not be able to trust anyone because of my past and what has happened to me yet I still talk so easily and get hurt so easily?

[Author]

Posts