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My insecurities started with my mother. She always told me I would never amount to anything and no man would ever want me. So I jumped at my 1st chance to get married and was in a verbally abusive marriage for 19 years. He also told me I wasn’t worth anything and no other man would ever want me. I went through counseling and became a Christian and tried to find my value through God. My next relationship was 6 years with a man who wouldn’t commit and left me when I gained weight.that is were my insecurities come from. I have never felt more comfortable in my own skin than I do with the man I am dating right now. After thinking things through I can wait a while to label anything but not 6 years again.
In a way it is probably an insecurity in me and a feeling of rejection. I felt like I had something and lost it.but his wording makes it sound like he wanted long term but no label from the start. It’s very confusing to me.he got upset when I brought it up again.
I think I need to put the label aside and just enjoy being with him for now and see what happens.and find out what he needs to be committed. You made some very good points.
