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In my experience, trying to “wait for him” to be sure or realize how special you truly are never works. Even if he does come to his senses…it will surely end in heartbreak anyway. This kind of guy always cheats because he is not fulfilled himself and cannot be selfless enough to love you.
Ego is king here. Selfish and ego driven.
My advice, he is showing you who he truly is RIGHT now. Do not waste a single minute more of your precious love on him!!!
The pain will be less if you end it now.
He’s not sure… and you are way better than that 100%! Do not stick around… end it!!!!I want to share with you what I’ve learned the hard way… I was in the exact same situation. He told me he loved me, we spent tons of time together and he even took me to his hometown to meet his parents. Sounds like the same guy! When he ignores your calls and texts and it turns into a situation where everything is HIS way…
He is playing you. There is another woman,
but he still wants you on “stand-by”. Don’t wait around, things won’t change. He’s seeing someone else and seeing if it works out. Confront him and demand the truth. He most likely will now say, he’s not ready for a relationship and he told you that from the beginning… manipulation and narcissism at its finest. Be smarter than he is and don’t waste your precious time!
Trust me!!Hello.
I am 52 years old and now single after being married twice. I’ve done my share of dating… and unfortunately I am dating again. Ugh!
In my experience people show you who they are right up-front. It’s not fair or fun at all especially because you really have strong feelings for him! I’ve been there. If you wait, go out with him again and don’t have any expectations or set boundaries, he will continue the cycle.
He will most certainly hurt you again and again. He is getting free sex. What guy wouldn’t come back? He’s put you into a category of accessible women.
But, you want more! You want a relationship!! My advice is get out now, block him and delete his number. Move on!
He’s done this twice. I promise you the third time will hurt so so much more.
Save yourself the heartache. Trust me!
Find someone to treat you like the goddess you are and don’t ever settle.
Love and Happiness! Good Luck. 🌺🌺🌺I was incredibly compelled to respond to this! I’m even wondering if it’s the exact same guy I dated??? Don’t let your “dynamic” fool you. We met last October and had the best 1st date ever. That night he asked me out for the second date. Which was equally amazing! He had Pursued me hardcore from the very start. He always called, texted and planned amazing dates! Made me sweet gifts, paid for everything, bought my son expensive gifts and always was reliable and amazing and fun and everything I could want – the sex was amazing… EXCEPT…
About a month 1/2 in I started noticing him being weird and moody. Then I noticed his phone going off… I confronted him and he said it was his ex gf but he told me … there was nothing between them. They were just friends because of several kid related situations. (A lie) I accepted his explanations. He introduced me to his daughter, his parents, took me to his hometown twice, made room for my stuff at his house, told me to bring clothes so I didn’t have to always bring stuff over etc etc. He started telling me he loved me all the time! …but his ex kept texting him.
He finally told me he still had feelings for her but they’d never get back together because she moved on and had a new boyfriend. So, I believed him and continued dating him for almost 6 months. I started to notice some strange behaviors but we were together 5 days a week and doing everything together. When I noticed his phone going off so I grabbed it and read messages his ex was sending him – things that absolutely devastated me! He was telling her to “lose” her man and take him back!!! All in text for me to read while I was IN BED with him!!!
Yet, they weren’t together and she had a fucking boyfriend! Moral of the story here – your man TOLD you he has feelings for someone else. She probably doesn’t want to be with him for whatever reason…but she still may be around getting attention and sex whenever she wants, thus, he is hung up on her!! But, since she doesn’t want him 100%… he needs a placeholder.
Which was ME!!
Please, don’t let it be YOU.
He laid it out for you in black and white!
He needs a placeholder until she changes her mind – that will be YOU.
Don’t invest your time, love, talent, spirit and body into someone who is in love with someone else. I wasted 6 months! I did it… and it pretty much destroyed me.
I hope you will not fall prey to this manipulator like I did! When someone tells you they are in love with someone else, believe them and go find your Prince Charming somewhere else!I am really sorry you have had to go through this. I went through the exact same thing a few weeks ago! I am starting to think this is some type of online dating “syndrome” where guys tell you EVERYTHING over the phone conversations and text. They feel safe and over expose themselves emotionally. They also seem to create this big fantasy person in their minds!! Then when they meet you in person they freak out because of the fact they over/shared and were emotionally too vulnerable and then their fantasy doesn’t live up to the reality in person! I even shared an entire night with my guy and the day after we met and he still ghosted me…telling me the same thing!!! I was a “cool” girl but I lived too far away. OMG! Really? He was ready to move me to his state and marry me the day prior. He knew that before he met me! I’m not sure what’s up with men these days…but the text/ phone falling in love “syndrome” from a distance is very dangerous and harmful to women! I am sorry again this happened to you too.
We need to set better boundaries and not start relationships in this manner.
