[Maleika F]

Thank you Kanya. I don’t actually think there is something or anyone here who gets in his way. He and I communicated well before he went out of town, too. I think it was literally coincidental. The “weird” text I sent was basically me acting dumb. As strange as it sounds, I’ve realized that if I text him from work or when theres a full moon, I end up not really putting thought into my texts and they com off stupid. I noticed that pattern when I spent time reflecting on our communication. Each time he would reach out to me in a thoughtful way, if either the work or full moon factor was in play, I managed to respond so spastic that it was obviously too much for him.

We were texting about hiking and how he goes about choosing the phenomenal hikes he goes on. That was my “way back in” when I first texted him that I needed his advice. We both love hiking and he really connects with it, so it allowed him the opportunity to shine. He really soaked it up! I was on a roll! We texted daily, which we hadn’t done in the past. I had sent a text asking him about his hike up Kilimanjaro. He replied with a cute “thinking” emoji and asked, “haven’t I already told you this before?” Instead of being normal and saying, “Yes, you told me about ‘x and y’ but can you tell me about ‘z’?” I, instead, said, “You’ve told me some. I want to hear more! NO adventure like that ends with a short story! (one raised eyebrow emoji added). (and then I said the stupid part) Spill the tea, (his name)! And it’s texts like that, albeit that one was mild compared to what I’ve displayed to him, that just make him shake his head and go quiet. My two best friends (one girl, one guy) both acknowledge that my text pattern with him comes off spastic and dumb sometimes.

We have only met the two times for the hikes. We both have been working a lot during the pandemic because of what our jobs are. So we haven’t met each others friends. Our families are not in town. His Visa was extended so now he’s here for a good bit and no longer has that stress. He also can maintain his job and continue to explore our country, hence his being out of town last weekend.

I’m happy to give more details about our relationship if it will help.

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