[Marina]

Dear Heidi,

Thank you so so much for taking your time to respond in such a depth.

First, yes you identified that well. My insecurity is something I have been adressing for quite a while now with different methods. It has gotten a lot better, however it is not completely resolved especially when I meet someone I like. I understand how that drove him away.

I am still thinking about the right way to approach him without overwhelming him. The way you drafted a possible text is perfect! However I think that I should address such a heavy topic in a personal conversation rather than my first text after his breakup. Instead I am thinking of sending a little more lighthearted message first asking for a follow up coffee or so if he responds positively.

I actually ran into him by coincidence yesterday! He was in town for the weekend with his best friend (he lives 4 hours away from where I live). He smiled at me, he was nervous too. We had a short smalltalk and I managed to stay confident during the conversation.

So I was thinking on sending him a text like:

“What a crazy coiincidendence don’t you think? It was nice seeing you on Saturday!

Looking back at our experinces together, I ended up really looking at my part in it and I would love to share with you how I believe I understand fully why you walked away and how you were taking care of your needs. I am working on the issues I believe contributed to it.

I just wanted to let you know that I miss you and our connection and I would like to find out where what we started can take us. You enrich my life in so many ways and I would love a fresh start between us, taking things slow. I have many more adventures for us in mind 😉 I am excited to hear your thoughts on that.
Hope you are well!”

How does this sound to you? I would go more in depth in a call or meeting because I think it could overwhelm him by text. Making me seem too complicated as a person. I forgot to say: he is 43 and I am 37.

Thanks again for your thoughts
Marina

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