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I really miss talking and hanging out with him, which I then feel stupid for because he probably doesn’t miss spending time with me at all. I want to reach out, because we became close and I miss that connection. For him to react that way has just been really hurtful because I’ve known him for years and he never seemed like the kind of guy to do something like that. But I don’t know if I’d be able to just be friends with him. A lot of people think that it’s “just the wrong time because he’s dealing with stuff”…. but I hate feeling like this. That’s part of the reason why I haven’t reached out to him, because I keep hoping that maybe he misses spending time with me and he’ll reach out himself. I don’t want to not reach out to him, and then we never speak again. But I also don’t want to message him and then he thinks that I’m okay with whatever situation we were in before. I most definitely am not. I want things to go back to normal. I’m also just afraid that even if I reach out to him, he won’t reach back. And somehow that’s the scariest option. I just wish I’d never asked him.
Thank you for responding!
1. I know he’s at least had one girlfriend. He was dating a girl when we were in college but they broke up. As far as I know, he hasn’t had one since then.
2. The conversation happened over text. We were messaging and had just made plans to watch a movie together the coming weekend and I asked him what his feelings were about me. To which he said that he thinks I’m amazing and loves spending time with me. Then I asked him if we were just friends and he said “are you curious about the potential for us to be more than friends/in a relationship?” And I said yes. He then said that he wasn’t sure and that he was aware that’s probably not what I wanted to hear. Then he asked my opinion.
3. Aside from that conversation, we had one other one but it was just to update him about a test I had done. We haven’t talked since then. We’re still friends on Instagram and snapchat, he still watches my stories. I really want to reach out but I’m not sure if I should.
