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Thanks. It’s really hard right now. Especially finding out that he’s with a girl with a baby. After we broke up we both said that if we started dating again that neither of us wanted to start with someone with a kid. He’s the only one to ever make me think about them. After we broke up I had a night of realization that he’s the only one I wanted and that I did want to have kids with him. Wishful thinking I guess. I never told him as I was trying to give him space. When we did talk recently he hasn’t really changed as far as maturity but I’m calculating every response to him that maybe I missed things. Maybe this girl is the one for him and I missed my chance for the love I’ve always dreamed of.
It is broke. It sucks, I thought we had something worth fixing but I guess not.
He send me a message yesterday saying he wanted to tell me something before I found out from someone else. The said that he had been dating someone recently but has kept it private. A mutual friend saw them and Dylan asked if they wouldn’t say anything so he could tell me.I thanked him and then told him exactly what you told me to about not being able to be his friend. He said he would like to be my friend again one day but I mentioned that I know myself really well and that probably won’t happen as I do love him very much and probably always will. I can’t turn it off unfortunately.
I’m also trying to figure out how to word it correctly. I don’t want it to sound like self pity or like I’m begging him to come back. I do want him back but if he comes back I’m afraid I’ll push him away.
When he got his stuff it did go well, I couldn’t tell if he missed me or if he still has feelings for me. He’s hard to read, it was like we never split up. He always hugs everyone before he leaves, the only read I got on that was he didn’t want to let go. I almost had to push him off because I was about to cry. I don’t think he looked back when he walked to his car but that’s probably because he didn’t want to see me break. I did right after I closed the door.
I honestly don’t know where it came from. I just remember things going really well for him, it was after he told me that his managers loved him and told him that if he ever needed anything to ask and I just heard this voice say “now that he has a car and a job he’s going to leave”. I actually told him and my best friend that and he said “if you think I’ll leave you because I have a job and a car then you’re wrong about me”. Yet he left like two months later. I kept asking if he was going to leave me and he said he didn’t want to lose me.
He got his stuff on Sunday and we talked a little bit then. I haven’t heard anything since so we will find out either Saturday or Sunday. I haven’t yet but I’m going to when he talks to me.I’m 32 he’s 27. When we got together he didn’t have a job, a reliable car and he was living with his mom. I was actually very close to having to do the same. We both had gotten out of very bad relationships. Both our exes were alcoholics that loved to start fights and blame us for everything. His ex caused him to lose everything, he had a house, two cars, a great job but she convinced him to sell the cars, the house and because of one night of stupidity (he had two beers on an empty stomach) he got a DUI and lost his job.
We had months between our exes and when we got together. When we started dating he was helping me with my business until he got a job. About 7 months into the relationship he finally got one and it was going really well. They even were looking to promote him. That’s when he started being distant. He got a car and his job was going great and my gut said “he’s going to leave when everything else is going good” and he did. I was super excited that everything was going so well for him.I was told by one of his friends that he was easily manipulated which makes sense after what his ex put him through. We started off as friends and the only thing I ever did was ask him to be himself. When we broke up he said he didn’t know who that was. He also said I was one of the best relationships he’s had.
