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Heidi and Kanya thank you greatly for your insights.
Kanya he had a 30 year relationship that ended about 5 years ago. After that he had a relationship that lasted a couple of years on again off again. His communication with me has been a mix. We talk about our ailing parents. We talk about our history from 30+ years ago. We talk about sex. It really a good even mix. Except he is vague about his “situations” that are stressing him out.
I have a very good friend whom I discuss things with she is on Team Sharon 😊. I am not chasing him which is a new concept for me and I am thankful for this program for teaching me not to chase. I will be here if he needs me (unless I have other plans).Thanks again!
Thank you for responding. I apologize for the length but hopefully the following will help. We reconnected a year ago and have been just good friends. I had often wondered if it would develop into more but wasn’t going to pursue anything unless he initiated it moving in that direction. Well about a month ago he took his messages in that direction and I cautiously followed. I let him lead. He would initiate contact and I would respond in kind. We talked on the phone and texted consistently for two + weeks and then agreed to meet for the weekend. The first night was amazing and he said and did a lot of things I didn’t expect to hear or see like “it should have been this way all along” “sure wish you would have considered me sooner” and holding doors and more. None needed to have been said … I was not expecting promises or instant commitment. Then he got food poisoning and we had to end the weekend early. He was “embarrassed” and worried about making me sick. He left and then let me know he made it back home. I checked on him later that day thanked him for the wonderful evening and wished him well. He then responded that he was doing better until he got his retirement statement. After that complete radio silence. I left it alone and about a week later I sent him a text telling him how much fun I had and mentioned it made me wonder what would have happened if I had indeed considered him sooner 😉
His response was very mixed basically he enjoyed it but “didn’t need to be thinking about me” because he was preparing for a big work meeting. So I left it alone. The next morning he reached out to me telling me he enjoyed our time right up until he got sick!! I responded and ended with a suggestion to meet up again. Which was met with him listing all he has on his plate. So later in the day I sent a response to tell him I knew he’d handle all his “situations” with finesse and success. I got a thumbs up and radio silence again! This weekend his mom (who lives next door to my mom and they have been friends since childhood) had health issues ended up in hospital. I happened to be in town and so I reached out to let him know if he needed anything to just let me know. He’s been somewhat responsive but only superficially and only about his mom. Some of his messages hint that he wants to be flirtatious lots of winks and “hmmm”. Just sent me a good morning message with an update on his and then said he didn’t realize I was next door!?! Yes I would like more of a connection but the mixed signals have got me hiding behind my barriers.
