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Can you just give me the quick small tips of what to say.. the hero instinct.. based on what you know about or relationship?
Hi, So he communicates well, hes not completely closed off. And its not more really being “closed off” its more like he NEVER knows what to say. However, after typing that yesterday and finally letting that off my cheat worked 100%. We have been really good since then. Exactly like the begging really. Im do accept who he is but it just felt like a blockage between us and I hated it. I recently spent 3 weeks with him and during that time we really got to see each-other, and understand each other alot better. Also the whole college thing did not effect our relationship at all lol. In college last semester he was in his room majority of the time. Not to be otp with me or anything but because where he was he completely hated, it brung him into a depression. It wasnt a typical highschool college long distance relationship for us. But anyways. All I want to know is.. how do i get him obsessed with me like in all the books. Can you give me the quick small tips please?
Theres just alot of things that tell me not to be with him. but everytime we try to go away it feels so wrong. I dont want to give up.There are alot of things that tell me to stay as well.
His personality:
very goofy, calm, neat, antisocial and social.Mine:
very goofy, calm sometimes, antisocial.Also our sex drives dont match. Hes not really into sex all the time as to where I am majority of the time.
We have did long distance for majority of our relationship. Hes a freshman in college and Im a senior in Highschool. Weve known eachother for 3 years but never been really close. Is our relationship too ruined to continue? do you think this can be fixed and we can get back to how we were ?
Its not really “arguments” anymore. Its very complicated to put into words. This is just the person he is, he’s very closed off but in the beginning on the relationship I dont recall him being like this. There was more. There was love letters and and playlist being made about his love for me. Im not sure if what Im asking for is too much but from watching videos from this prgram it seems as if any person can be affectionate even if they aren’t. Expecially if theyre willing to do it right? Its also on me. I see him as somebody who just isnt enough or is never gonna do enough. Whatever he does I feel like he could do more, because at one point in our relationship I was fine with what he did. It was enough for me. But ever since January we’ve been saying “maybe we need space” we give eachother a week and then pretend everything is fine. And then go back to the “you arent doing enough” argument. Hes super understanding and very chill about the situations. He did tell me in february he wasnt trying at all because he lost intrest. He doesnt feel fit for a relationship. A few days ago he was convinced he did not love me.. but it wasnt that. It was the same thing he felt in february which was not being intrested. I know it sounds like Im just shrugging him along but I tried to leave and he almost begged me to stay. He wants this now. We understand eachother better. The reason wy he felt as if he wasnt fit for a relationship is because he has never been in one, also he hated the fact that he had hurt me a multiple times. Its all unintentional because he truly doesnt know what hes doing. I also know he loves me, I genuinely feel that. Iread that questioning your love in a relationship is completely normal. We’re both 18. I dont want to break up with him. So please dont say that. I Know all of this nonsense can be fixed. There has to be one borderline issue that this all is. and once we identify that it will be. So can you help??
