Here’s the thing after anything like this happens he’ll just text me like nothing ever happened and we just continue where we left off. I’ve stayed at his house almost all this week and im here now but still so confused you see we also work together. We are construction workers we are both foreman for the same company im on vacation right now so im off till next week so he’s at work. But he also doesn’t tell anyone we’re even together i mean I have an 8 yr old daughter and he has an 11 yr old daughter and he tells them were best friends not boyfriend and girlfriend so I think he’s embarrassed of me cause I’m 10 yrs older none of his friends know or our coworkers what are his reasons for not wanting people to know and not even wanting to admit to himself that we are in some kind of a relationship its so frustrating i really would like to make this work but I dmthink I deserve more than to be his dirty little secret but im afraid to give him any kind of ultimatum for fear of losing him please help