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Hi Kanya,
Yes I told him about it. I think he just want to play it safe so he said things like he don’t want to hurt me so I think he is worried I might harbour other intentions. Not too sure if this is even good but sounds pretty bad to me.
Hi Kanya
I would like to take it slow with the guy. I don’t think forcing anything out works but I believe in starting as friends first. I guess we did not really meet at a correct timing per say but I would like to stay invested in growing this friendship in the following few months.
Ofcourse if things were to develop that would be great, otherwise it shall be as it is.
Hello Heidi,
Appreciate your kind thoughts on the above suggestion. I did tell him I kind of value the friendship we had so we can stay as friends. The thing is he don’t even have much time and suggesting a meet up a month may not seem feasible especially when he is so busy and I did tried to connect by saying we can hang out as friends. He said something like only his closest friends have the priority pass otherwise he will only meet others during his break or after his exams. He’s a forth year student, one more year left to MBBS. His examinations is in July but really he is always studying and quite a high achiever. I remembered once he told me before like 2 months before his exams he would go on a MIA status to focus on his studies.
So for now I just hope like there’s certain touchpoint still to engage him subtly! I know it’s hard but I don’t mind trying.
The thing I like about him is that he’s really comfortable to talk to and I feel like I could clique with him quite instantly somehow. I think comfort matters a lot to me and I feel like I can talk to him about anything without much reservation. He just makes it seem so easy to have a conversation with him. Regarding staying as friends, I can’t totally deny the fact that I harbour thoughts of extending the relationship beyond friendship but I would like to understand him better first before making before making any judgment.
When we were talking, I felt like I was not as proactive and he was the one trying to engage me more in the conversation so naturally I flow with his frequencies. Also as a friend, I would be able to better assess him as a person and see the different sides of him? Other than that, I really appreciate the comfortability vibes he gave me whenever I speak to him because I feel like that how I would ultimately like to talk to my other half.
Even if we don’t match well as a couple,
I don’t mind having a good buddy!That’s my thought 🙂
Hi Heidi,
I was in the toxic relationship for a good two years before I decided to cut him off completely recently as well. Like you mentioned, it’s highly because I was trying to move on by moving on to the next person which also explains why I’m slightly interested in the Med Student Guy.
To be really honest, I don’t mind being friends with him because I truly believe in relationship that starts off with friends. But in my case I am not sure how I can maintain and keep this friendship ongoing if we barely interact or talk now.
Any suggestions on this?
Thank you so much for hearing out!
