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Hi Kanya,
Yes, everything you’re saying makes perfect sense. I completely understand what you are saying and am taking time to contemplate and think about it too. You asked the question, are we close enough to talk on a regular basis. When we were close, we talked everyday for hours and he even started opening up and sharing things that bothered him with me. At this time, we are not communicating because I don’t know exactly what I need to say to entice him again and start back up. I will then use what I learned and know to keep the relationship going. I will work out a way to make sure we are FaceTimeing and talking on a daily basis by using the Momentum Method. I want to also add that this is not something I am going to do tomorrow because I don’t yet think I know enough. Once I feel I am secure enough in myself and know front and back how to maintain a good relationship, I will then hit him up. I just want an idea of what to say to him when we speak to allure him. Just to have it so when I need it I can use it. I understand this may be difficult for me to pull off. I have made up in my mind that if it doesn’t work, I won’t force it and it’ll be ok. I just don’t want my fears to keep being the thing that stops good people or contenders. Whether it’s my fear of being hurt or fear of failure from trying. I took time to grow from where I was and now I’m not scared of failure. If it doesn’t work out, sucks to be him. I just want to put my best foot forward and that’s why I’m here. Thank you for reading. I know that was long. Look forward to hearing from you.Hello Heidi,
Thank you for responding. I read this email many times and ruminated on it a lot. Yes, we met online. No we haven’t met in person but if we became serious, I would go see him or meet half way. I want him to chase me only because it confirms to me that he is still interested and plus men thrive off of chase. Plus… I wouldn’t mind being courted again. I felt relieved when he got a girl not because of him but more so me. I could tell that I was having some self love issues that I needed to work out but knew I couldn’t focus on myself and many ppl at the same time. I cut and put a break on many ppl in my life but just hadn’t cut him yet because I didn’t know where we stood. When he told me he got a girl, I knew it was my chance and God telling me I needed to grow as a person first and figure out what I wanted from him to begin with. I really like this guy. In fact, I would go as far to say I love him. He’s always on my mind, in every song, and little moments in my life remind me of him. Don’t get me wrong we had great times together especially in the beginning. We got to know each other, joked, played games, pranks, laughed and just plain enjoyed each other. But then things got played out. I wanted to invest time in thinking of stuff for us to do but felt it wasn’t worth it if he wasn’t asking me to be his. I want to fight for him because when I’m with him I feel like I am walking on the clouds. I cherished everyone of our memories and no one made me feel the way I felt with him. I want a relationship and I want commitment. The thing is honestly I get scared. I’m scared I’ll fall and get hurt. That’s why I need signs he likes me and won’t just leave if things get tough and so on. Long story short, I want to feel something with him again and know this times that he really honestly LOVES me. I first just want to gain his interest and spark his curiosity again just to get him chasing. Then work from there.
