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Melissa,
Maybe send him a text asking how his week was. It is not too direct and can hopefully jump start some sort of communication.Melissa,
Wow I am so sorry you are going through this. How confusing! Have you tried reaching out to him since sunday?I agree. I have tried online dating once a few years ago. I did meet someone and we dated for over a year, but he was not what I thought and I was constantly finding out things that were untrue. I feel that the whole process of online dating is unnatural haha
Hi Carol,
I have been with my guy for two years now. The start of our relationship was a whirlwind of intimacy and over the past 6 months has pretty much become non existent. We had moved to a small town and both gained about 10lbs during the first cold winter. He doesnt feel attractive and has been having issues with his body image. We have started working out together and I have seen a small change but a change nonetheless! I truly think that men can have body issues just like women can and I have seen first hand that this can effect intimacy.Shannon,
It sounds like things are progressing nicely! I am glad that you decided to work things out together 🙂 You go girl!
StephVictoria,
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. It is hard to get over infidelity in a relationship sometimes. I am actually reading one of the insider’s reports on infidelity and how to move past it in a relationship. I am sure he cares about you but sometimes once trust is lost, it is really hard to get it back. I am not a counselor in any way but I have been on both sides of this situation. The question as to whether or not the cheating will happen again is always in the back of your head. I feel that the best way to move past this is to give space when needed but to also keep open and honest communication flowing between you two. Let him know that you understand that space is needed but that you are willing to work on your relationship together. I hope this helps 🙂
StephMiranda,
I am going to share a little bit of my story. I was with Randy for 2 years. Our first year was a whirlwind romance. Nothing but good memories and laughter and love. A few months after our year anniversary, he started partying with his buddies more, never had money to help with bills and everytime we went out together he would start a fight with me, id go home and he would stay out. I finally had enough and asked him what was going on. He told me that I had a terrible attitude and he felt that I needed to change before he could be happy again. So I tried. I tried harder to get the bills paid, i made dinner every night, made sure laundry was always done. He still wasnt happy. He ended up ending the relationship and we moved to separate places. He continued to call me in the mornings and would ask if i could drive him to work. I did. EVERY time he asked. I would drop him off and he would kiss me and tell me he loves me. After a few weeks of this I asked him if he saw us getting back together. He said I needed to change and then maybe we would. Well let me tell you, after 3 years of us being apart and no longer in each others lives, I have realized that he used me. He used me to pay the bills and keep the house together. He used me for rides to work. He used me as an excuse for whatever he needed. I was HEART BROKEN when he left me, but hindsight is 20/20 and it was the best thing that could have happened. I hope my story helps a little bit. I know these things are hard to go through, but sometimes the grass really IS greener on the other side.Theresa,
That is so wonderful to hear that you are reconnecting with friends and working on yourself! Keep up the great work!
StephHeather,
I see. What a difficult situation to be in. I am not a counselor in any way, but I do think that this is something you guys should talk about. I know from experience that it is scary to be with someone when you feel others will not approve. Why do you think that people would be upset if they knew you guys were together?Heather,
Have you discussed with him how this makes you feel? My sister is in a similar situation. She is 30 dating a 24 year old. They both say that the age gap doesnt matter, but I see that subconsciously it must because they argue about some of the craziest things. For instance, He gets mad when she wants to go have dinner with her friends, he gets very insecure when she is around people her age. Sometimes, as much as we dont want age to be an issue, it is and it is unavoidable. I would discuss with him how it makes you feel when he ghosts you. I am so sorry you have to go through this. It must be confusing and hurtful.JM,
Hey there! Do you think this is something that he would be willing to do? I do not think it is too much to ask, maybe you guys can drive together and you can make it a little road trip for the two of you. I also do not think it is a bad idea to have someone with you in general when going and looking at a place to live. Some people are skeezy.
