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Kimberly S said it all. She is clearly a very wise and centered individual. You deserve someone who wants to be married to you and a real father to your child. He is out there. You are better off without this man whom lacks faith in you and/or himself. This man is selfish.
Amy H is right on the money. You have to love yourself more than him. Think about how to be the best, happiest version of yourself and the men will come. The more you go after a guy the more he will take you for granted. Reserve your affection for a man who’s willing to work for it.
-Regina J
My deepest sympathies for the pain you are going through. I can’t imagine how it must feel to have a parent close to death.My assumption is that this man care about you, but his unwilling or unable to deal with this degree of emotional strain. You could argue he’s a fair-weather boyfriend, but that seems unfair. You haven’t been together that long. The strain of a serious ill family member is often enough to end long healthy marriages.
This difficult situation with your father is understandably having a huge emotional impact on you. I would assume you’re not very pleasant to be around. Seek comfort from family members and friends. If he doesn’t want to be your shoulder to cry on, he’s probably just not that nurturing of a guy. At least not at this stage in his life. Being upset at him is not going to make him more responsive. Consider that you may be being more confrontational than you realize.
This guy is not the priority right now. You’re coping with loss. This relationship may be a victim of circumstance. When the dust settles your life will go on. Your close relationship with your father suggests he was a good to you. You’ll find a man to be good to you. It may be this guy. It may not be. Look at him with fresh eyes when your period of mourning has passed.
Men tend to be direct. Sometimes reactionary and tactless. Other times they don’t say much at all. The upside is when they volunteer information, you can take them at their word. Women tend to ask a lot of questions. Once a man and woman have agreed on something, the man will be annoyed if the woman wants to change the plan or otherwise poke holes in it. Men are about action. If one is meeting his girlfriend hours later, he’ll likely be busying himself with other things until then. If the girlfriend calls and texts him repeatedly, instead of looking forward to seeing her, he will regard her as a unwelcome distraction.
